Category: Compatibility & Relationships

The whole source of the Love that you seek – is in the FIFTH house of your birth chart.

LOVE is one thing. Marriage is other thing. Marriage is only a working partnership. LOVE is something else, altogether different than what marriage is!

Love has absolutely no relation to LOGIC, to RULES, to INTELLECT – it is quite unconnected to thought. Love HAPPENS – the word ‘HAPPEN’ is beautiful – I personally love this word – because whatever HAPPENS is never planned – it just ‘happens’!

Life is also something that – happens! Love, Life is never planned – it just happens. And so does – SANNYAS!

That is the reason why 5th house is significant. That is the reason why 5th Lord is significant. And that is the reason why LOVE is significant.

Love needs tremendous COURAGE! When a man or woman is fired up with LOVE – they can go to any extent to attain the LOVE that they SEEK.

5th house also signify COURAGE. Remember 5th house is represented by the SIGN LEO – the LION!

Love is the ‘source’ that brings COURAGE. This LOVE can be the LOVE for a person or for the NATION! Freedom Fighters became fighters because they had tremendous LOVE for the NATION – Bhagat Singh, Lokmanya Tilak, Veer Savarkar – Mahatama Gandhi and many freedom fighters were aflamed with LOVE for our country – it is always LOVE that ‘triggers’ the whole story of life, it is always LOVE that brings life to our being.

In the beginning you are seeking LOVE. Then someday and at someplace – you FALL in love. But the real ‘maturity’ comes when you no more fall in love but you become love!

The whole purpose of LIFE is to become LOVE!

Love is the GOAL – Life is the journey to attain the GOAL – LOVE!

Only a man who can become LOVE – can live LIFE in totality and only a man who can live life with LOVE – can one day attain the BUDDHAHOOD – (Sannyas)!

It is all inter-connected, and the thread that connects LOVE, LIFE, SANYAS is LOVE!

A man or woman whose 5th house is aflame with MARS – SUN – JUPITER or VENUS or MOON is indeed a man of LOVE – he loves ROMANCE. But one must understand that ROMANCE can of many layers – from the base to the high level!

One must understand that the Oxford dictionary defines the words ROMANCE as a kind of ADVENTURE!

And Adventures can of many levels and of all kinds – and the very first ADVENTURE that LOVE initiates is to ‘JUMP’ into the unknown!

Once you are in LOVE, once you are aflame with LOVE – once your whole being is fired up with LOVE – you can JUMP – you will JUMP!

That is how many LOVERS have JUMPED and RISKED their life – and there has been absolutely NO REGRET – because LOVE never REGRETS – when you LOVE, you simply LOVE!

And when this LOVE is raised to the HIGHER ALTITUDES – SPIRITUALISM – then you have someone as beautiful as JOHN, the baptist, Peter, the fisherman, Ananda, Arjuna – who has so much LOVE for their master – that they never looked back, never asked a single question, never raised any doubts – they SIMPLY JUMPED into the unknown – the followed the Master!

Love has many layers – the love that Buddha has will of different quality than the love that Hitler has! Hitler’s love will be hot – that is what the commoners know about love – to them LOVE always have to be HOT! Even when they eat dog – they want HOT DOG! So the concept of LOVE for the commoners is of HOT LOVE, SEXUAL LOVE.

But Buddha…..Buddha’s love is like that cool breeze, there is no demand, no conditions, when you in the omnipresence of Buddha – the love that you receive is different than the HOT LOVE that you have known.

The HOT LOVE that people have is not LOVE in totality – it also has the shade of HATE. The ‘fights’ is a result of that HATE – when the fight is over – you cool down and then again you are in the bed – making LOVE! You see – this is how the LOVE of the physical world is!

But BUDDHA – in BUDDHA’s LOVE you will find absolutely no shade of hate and so many may also find BUDDHA’s love as BORING because there is no ‘spice’ in HIS love!

You may say anything to HIM and yet he is NOT going to react. HE is simply going to SMILE and HIS smile is so penetrating that if you can receive – then his smile can simply penetrate into the deepest valleys of your heart and move you within!

Buddha is the highest the purest state of LOVE that knows only to SHARE, to GIVE and just to GIVE!

You can only GIVE if you HAVE!

Buddha has it – in fact Buddha is not just filled with LOVE – BUDDHA is LOVE!

Before leaving his body – Buddha had said to his disciples “ Do NOT make statue of me because once I am gone, I am gone. The statue can go on deceiving you for centuries.”

For five hundred centuries no statue was made. But later people started building statues of Buddha – when Buddha himself had said “ Do NOT make statue of me.”

There is a very deep meaning to the beautiful message that Buddha had shared with his disciples – and it is significant for you all to understand.

It is always easy to follow a STATUE – it is of BUDDHA but it is DEAD. It cannot move you – cannot disrupt you – cannot pull you away from your illusions!

But ALIVE BUDDHA – can ask you to do something that is in your interest but not in your favor! The ALIVE BUDDHA can ask you to drop everything and FOLLOW HIM – then it will be difficult because you are attached to each and everything – right from your CAR, HOME, to your WIFE and children and so ALIVE BUDDHA is dangerous – a STATUE is BETTER! Make nice STATUE – offer a nice garland of beautiful flowers – burn an incense stick – and that is all! You are safe – the STATUE is NOT going to ask for anything – you can safely say that I LOVE THE STATUE – but you will think twice if in the place of the STATUE – the REAL BUDDHA – the ALIVE BUDDHA is present because then the master is not dead – he is ALIVE and people always find it a challenge to follow the MASTER’s word – because THOSE words disrupt the MIND – and you are still caught up with the MIND – the MIND loves STATUES of MASTERS (it is a safe bet) – but the same MIND will start shivering if the REAL BUDDHA comes – because BUDDHA is the state of NO MIND and LOVE exists only when there is NO MIND but only the heart – the consciousness!

To conquer others – you may succeed someday, at some birth cycle. But to conquer your MIND – to become the Master of your Mind – is NOT so easy. It may take a lifetime or many births until – the ‘Buddha’ is born.
“Buddha” is not a name, it is a title. It is a title that reveals the state of NO MIND. Buddha means the state of NO MIND. Buddha is NO MIND.

NO MIND – means NO LOGIC, NO HEAD – and LOVE HAPPENS only when there is NO LOGIC, NO HEAD – absolutely NO HEAD.

There are many aspects that may initiate LOVE MARRIAGE – one of them is when the fifth house lord connects in some way with the seventh house – a strong possibility of a Love Marriage is signified.

Rarely does one find LOVE in MARRIAGE! There are ‘individuals’ who are destined to find LOVE only OUTSIDE marriage. Universe is vast – very vast – the MIND cannot contain the VASTNESS of this UNIVERSE – and so people who are slaves of their MIND cannot feel the VASTNESS and along with it the many many millions and millions of SITUATIONAL SCENARIOS that evolve in certain ‘individual’s’ life!

There are many such – in millions around this VAST HUMAN WORLD – who enjoy sexual pleasures, emotional support, hand-holding only OUTSIDE MARRIAGE and not in marriage!

So MARRIAGE definitely has NOTHING do with LOVE. In a rare case – in exceptional cases – if marriage happens out of LOVE – then it is a different thing – but statistics show that maximum DIVORCE CASES are from LOVE MARRIAGES than otherwise!

But still ‘MARRIAGE’ remains an institution that is going to remain forever – for the sole reason – that MARRIAGE is a part of tradition – a practical MEDIUM – to attain material GAINS!

During the Imperial Age – the KINGS would have many marriages with many women of princely states – because those MARRIAGES would SECURE the material gains and strengthen his authority over more provinces and more people.

So MARRIAGE is always going to remain – it is not a necessity but it has been made compulsory – because it has absolutely NOTHING to do with LOVE – but more to do with STATUS, and SOCIETY!

For LOVE – only 5th house and 5th house LORD’s connection with VENUS is enough.

For LOVE MARRIAGE – the 7th house connection with the 5th house is necessary.

Generally women or men having MARS VENUS conjunction are highly sexual by nature – and they also look very HOT. So sexuality is seen but this sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with marriage.

VENUS MOON – again is a highly sexual woman or man. This is also a pleasure seeking BHOGI person – and enjoys many sexual pleasures in life – along with other luxuries of life.

VENUS RAHU – again highly sexual – wants MORE sex – real time sex that LAST LONGER – and not just get over in 5 minutes.

VENUS URANUS – this person likes to have unique way of doing SEX – they always try out new things to add excitement to their sexual experiences. Erotic sex is something they love to explore – and are generally out of the box thinkers when it comes to having sex.

VENUS NEPTUNE – this person lacks actual ACTION in the BED. He goes on imagining and fantasizing – and in the process bores the partner (if the partner is strong sexual being). Because the partner wants some hard sex – and this person simply is too soft and kills all the fun that the partner expects.

Human life comes with many flavors – and HUMAN becomes GODLY – when there is absolutely NO flavor left – NIRGUNA – when there is no SATVIC guna, no TAMASIC Guna, and no RAJAS Guna – NIRGUNA!

NAR – to – NARAYAN. That is the whole journey – my fellows, that is the whole journey – NAR (HUMAN) nature is of being BHOGI (pleasure seeking) and NARAYAN is the nature of being YOGI (God seeking)!

Births happen – today a woman is not happy in her marriage, not satisfied sexually in her marriage – she will come back – today a man is not happy in his marriage, not satisfied sexually in his marriage – he will come back. This is how the cycle of birth and rebirth continues – you keep coming back- and SOCIETY has made this more complicated because SOCIETY blocks the men and women to seek sexual pleasures from else where – and then there is no other option – the man/woman dies with the DESIRE unfulfilled – and takes BIRTH again to satisfy the unfinished business!

This whole cycle of rebirth could have been avoided – had they satisfied their desire in the same life itself! But the question of wrong doing and right doing comes in between them and their desires – indeed a very touching situation – that only a master can understand – because the master is BEYOND the society’s so called ‘WRONG DOING’ and ‘RIGHT DOING’ theories.

The master can understand YOU. The real GURU will ACCEPT you without asking you a single question. The real master will NEVER judge you – HE can understand your heart than anybody else would!

Always remember MORALITY is SUBJECTIVE – is totally SITUATIONAL BASED. MORALITY is totally based on your level of CONSCIOUSNESS.

Remember Sri Krishna – remember the many ways that otherwise are not considered to be ethical that Krishna implemented during the Mahabharata War? Now would you call Krishna immoral? NO that would sound too stupid! Because what KRISHNA did was spontaneous – his morality was spontaneous and in the state of TOTAL CONSCIOUSNESS.

WHATEVER YOU DO – IF YOU ARE DOING IT WITH CONSCIOUSNESS – WITH FULL AWARENESS than that is the real morality – it is NOT fake – it is NOT because of any outside pressure – it is spontaneous, and very much a result of your own consciousness!

Rumi when says “ I will meet you on a field which is beyond the ‘wrong doing’ and ‘right doing’” – HE addresses the FIELD of CONSCIOUSNESS!

How beautiful is this and how deep – only a meditative being can truly relate, can truly understand. Bliss. Pure bliss.

5th house is very important because LOVE is very important! Without 5th house and 5th house Lord support – LOVE is missed, it is simply missed!

And only a man who can LOVE – can also LOVE someday GOD – can also go to the extremes to experience GOD – can also become a BUDDHA! Because he can JUMP – he can be COURAGEOUS – he can go beyond MIND – and only a man who can GO BEYOND MIND – can do something that is OUT OF MIND!

A man who has gone all HIS way to attain the LOVE of his life, has all the ‘necessary’ qualities to attain GOD – such a man *is* SPIRITUAL because LOVE is SPIRITUAL and HE has already surrendered to LOVE – so going a step ahead – crossing the boundary of the KINGDOM is not going to be difficult for him – and that is what Prince Siddhartha did – when time came, when the CALL OF THE DIVINE came – he simply left his KINGDOM – and became the BUDDHA – Gautama Buddha!

Only a man who can dive – who can JUMP can become a BUDDHA someday. And you will dive, you will jump, you will show courage only when you are truly a follower of your HEART!

That is the reason that I have always encouraged you all to FOLLOW your heart. The society says FOLLOW YOUR HEAD – FOLLOW YOUR LOGIC – but the divine compassionate master is encouraging you all to FOLLOW YOUR HEART – only then LOVE is possible, only then the dance is possible, and only then this life is possible!

Always follow your heart, your heart knows the way – run in that direction, for the heart is always right. Always.

Meditation is the ‘path’ that can help you reach your Heart! Heart-meditation – focus on your heart – be attentive to your breathing and meditate every day.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

 

Attraction happens through the **5th house**, and this attraction is purely based on past-life karmic patterns. Your taste, your preferences, and your ideas about a partner are all directly related to your past-life karmic connections. Often, you may see a beautiful woman falling in love with a seemingly unattractive man or a handsome man falling in love with an unattractive woman. This happens because their attraction stems from their past-life connection. The source of love, attraction, or the line “I like you” originates from the **abode of the 5th house**.

Next comes partnership, which is governed by the **7th house**. There are countless cases where a man loves one person but marries someone else, or a woman loves someone but ends up marrying another. This highlights that there is no necessary connection between love and marriage. Occasionally, people marry the ones they love, but this is not always the case. Sometimes, destiny has other plans. The **7th house** also represents the public domain, which is why “marriage” is linked to this house. Marriage is a public declaration of bonding. All the angular houses of the chart (Kendra houses) are connected to public life and society.

So far, I have explained the essence of the **5th and 7th houses**, both of which are connected to intimacy and sexual encounters. However, the final seal that confirms sexual encounters comes from the **8th house**. The **8th house** is directly linked to pure sexual intimacy. There are many married couples who are not sexually active yet share deep love and affection. In such cases, the **8th house** is not prominent, while the **5th and 7th houses** are strong and activated. Conversely, there are marriages or relationships where there is only sex, and sometimes even sexual violence. In these instances, the **8th house** dominates, while the **5th and 7th houses** are weak. Often, the lord of the **8th house** is afflicted or poorly placed. Cheating, extra-marital affairs, or engaging in multiple sexual relationships while being in a committed relationship are all connected to the **8th house**, particularly when it is strong, while the **5th and 7th houses** are weak.

Having explained the **5th, 7th, and 8th houses**, let’s now focus on the **planets** that signify sexual encounters when connected to these houses.

The first planet is **Venus**, the natural significator of love, romance, and sensuality.
The second planet is **Mars**, representing passion, energy, and sexual drive.
The third and most impactful planetary entity is **Rahu**, which amplifies desires and unconventional aspects of relationships.

Whenever a combination of these three planets connects to the **5th, 7th, and 8th houses**, you are likely to experience sexual encounters. The **8th house** is a house of suddenness, so if you are undergoing the **Mahadasha** or **Antardasha** of the planet ruling the **8th house** or **5th house**, you are bound to experience love and sexual intimacy during this period.

There is no shame in this, as everything happens due to past-life karmic connections. Sometimes people fall from grace, but it is important to remember: the glory lies not in never falling but in rising every time you fall. Mistakes are a part of life, but repeating the same mistakes makes one foolish. True wisdom is in learning from mistakes and raising your awareness, which helps you rise again. That is true glory.

If you are a good-hearted person and have made mistakes—such as having multiple sexual encounters or cheating on your partner—you should not live in guilt. Instead, learn from your mistakes, avoid repeating them, and remain loyal to your partner. I do not admire people who pretend they are perfect or claim they will never make mistakes. Such individuals live in ignorance because no one can predict how planetary influences may drive them to act out of character.

Always remain humble. Instead of criticizing those who have fallen from grace, support them, help them, and give them a second chance. If it can happen to them, it can happen to you or even to your children one day.

Be compassionate. It is true that every person should strive to live with awareness, but many times, past-life karma leads to such situations. If someone is making efforts not to repeat the mistakes they made in their past or current life, show mercy. Give them a second chance, for one who shows mercy is greater than one who punishes.

Enough for now. Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

The status of Relationship is totally based on the transit of planets and the Mahadasha periods. It is ncessary to note that some Relationships do well as long as they are not converted into marriage. Because when marriage happens – 7th house is activated as well as all the aspects to 7th house and 7th house lord are activated. And so if your 7th house and aspects related to 7th house lord are not in good condition then it is likely that the moment you marry your long-time girlfriend or boyfriend – the marriage may not work and may fail miserably and you may start wondering that what went wrong? You wonder that for so many years you had a good relationship with your partner but the moment you got married to your partner – things started becoming worse – and evantually marriage became a punishment when it was supposed to become a beautiful rewarding marriage!

That is why many times I suggest that you better remain in a relationship rather then getting married because the moment you get married – you may start going through unbearable suffering. So it is advisable that you first check the quality of your 7th house and 7th house lord and then decide whether you really want to marry your boyfriend or girlfriend. Because if your 7th house or if your partner’s 7th house is afflicted then it is likely that after marriage your partner’s behaviour would change drastically and that would lead you to many miseries than otherwise.

Many times – you love somebody but you end up marrying someone else. Why this kind of tragic events happen in your life? Because somewhere your Venus is not in good shape. Venus Mars, Venus Rahu, Venus Ketu, Venus Sun – these types of Venus conjunctions many times lead you to altogether new path wherein you have to drop the idea of marrying your girlfriend and marry a totally new woman. So this kind of tragic events can definately impact you emotionally – but if the woman whom you are marrying – if that woman has a good character, a good 7th house aspect and a good Venus then definately she can make your life a heaven – though it may take time for you to come out of those memories of your past life relationship.

There is absolutely no answer or remedy to overcome or escape such events because it is a part of your destiny and it is a process through which you are destined to go through. Every process and the sufferings that you go through – shapes you into a much evolved person. There is a big difference when you read the quote of Buddha – “Life is suffering” and when you yourself go through the phases of your life and self realize that Life is suffering! Your own experience matters than what others say or quote!

Although – Acceptance – is the key that help you to Let Go and when you truly Let Go – you can move on with your life. But to come to the stage of Acceptance – it takes time. Time heals. So whenever you come across such difficult relationship situations – breakup, divorce, cheating, backstabing – it is necessary that you give time to yourself. It is only time that can heal you – because as time ticks – planetary transits also change, Mahadasha periods also change and with this change – slowly slowly you also change, your perspective changes – your mind changes and that is how life starts changing and then once again you start smiling, laughing and life goes on!

Yesterday a young man asked “Why is it that after a enjoying a good life with me – my girlfriend left me and married other man?”
I smiled and showed him the quote of Neem Karoli Baba – Baba says “We meet only those people with whom our meeting is predestined. Duration of association with each person is also preordained. One should not grieve if one is separated or if the association does not last long. Whereever you maybe, all that is auspicious will be with you.”

The duration of association with your girlfriend or boyfriend or wife or husband is preordained. When time comes – either you or your partner will have to step out. This stepping out can manifest either through fights, arguements, misunderstandings, or physical death. Because you will meet when you are destined to meet and then your meeting or relationship will be over when you are destined to come out of that relationship. So there is no point in grieving because nothing is permenant – people change, situations change, as planetary transits change – the situations and people in your life – including yourself – everthing changes. Life is constant change. Except for change everything else changes – always remember this.

It is natural to feel low, to feel extremely sad when you go through a breakup or divorce or when your partner cheat you – but you should remember that this too shall pass. Life is made of moments – for many past births you may have gone through such difficult situations – this is not the first time that somebody has broke your heart – but because you are ignorant – you break down and then it becomes difficult until time flows and one day you woke up and realize that what an idiot you have been!

This waking up happens when Jupiter transits is positive for your chart and when you land in a good Mahadasha period – and most importantly you associate yourself with some divine master.

Just by being in the presence of the master – slowly slowly you start coming out of this emotional mess and a day comes when you are again smiling, again happy and again ready to mingle and find a good positive happy partner!

This is how the circle of life continues that is why it is called Sansar. Sansar means a wheel – it goes on revolving – again and again and again until one day you say “Enough is Enough” and you start following that old man – who is still waiting for you – sitting beneath that huge banyan tree – he smiles and says “Ab Akal Ayi?” meaning “Finally now you have realized the futility of this Sansar?”

But to come to this state of self realization – it requires a lot of faith, patience and commitment. And above all – Guru’s blessings. Enough for now – you all stay happy and remember – life is suffering. You come in this life to seek happiness but Guru Nanak says “Nanak Dukhiya Sab Sansar” meaning “All in this world are unhappy”. Further Guru Nanak says “Only those who have walked on the path of the beyond – only these men and women can experience happiness.

The path of the beyond – that is the path of the Holy Lord. Unless and until you self-realize this ultimate truth – there is no way you can find lasting happiness in life. My love and blessings to all those who are taking efforts to walk on the path of the beyond!

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

Venus is a dealer. Moon is a caretaker. When both come together – there is a mismatch! Venus cannot understand the illogical way of moon and moon cannot understand the logical way of Venus. For marriage or a successful relationship – along with Venus – Mercury is also very important. Sex, love, sexual activity – is all based on how you process your thoughts – and this processing of thoughts comes under the domain of Mercury. That is why in many cases – even though Venus is positive – still the person continues to fail in his or her relationship due to the poor placement of Mercury or afflicted Mercury.

Today – as we all celebrate the beautiful day of Valentine – it is necessary to understand that the success of your relationship comes down to Mercury and its overall condition in your birth chart.

I will not hesitate to state that even though your Venus is debilitated and placed in Virgo – still if Mercury is placed in Virgo or Gemini or is placed in the 7th house with positive aspects from Jupiter – then you will succeed in your relationship or marriage.

On this Valentine – I want to specifically reveal this secret of successful relationship to my close followers – and the secret is now open – the key planet for a successful marriage or relationship is the princely planet – Prince Mercury!

The woman may have exceptional beauty, she may be entertaining, she may be intelligent, she may have unique artistic talent but if she is not have a certain depth of understanding then she cannot sustain her relationship for long. The same is applicable to man. It is based on the overall placement of Mercury that you level of understanding is seen. Buddha says – True love is born from understanding. Buddha further says – When you understand everything – you forgive everything! The success of every relationship that happens on this planet is based on the level of understanding. When both – the man and woman has good level of understanding – they will continue to walk hand in hand through the many high and lows of life. And this deep level understanding comes only from the grace of Mercury and Jupiter.

Venus is all about looks, artistic talent, love-making, kissing, fashion designing or all kinds of designing, glamor. However this is not enough for a relationship to blossom and deepen. You also need “Vivek Buddhi” – “Vivek Buddhi” means reasoning through constructive positive set of mind. Otherwise you all have read news wherein the man and women fall in love – run away and get married and then one day the man kills the woman and cuts her into pieces – is this love? This happens because of “irrational mind” – and such an irrational mind – cruel mind is due to poor placement of moon and mercury in the chart. Moon is the Master of Mercury. And when Moon – that is when Mind is corrupted – it gives all kinds of wrong – self-destructive orders to the brain which is Mercury. Mercury is responsible for the processing of thoughts or command that happens through the brain. And so just having a strong Venus is not enough – you need to have a good placement of Mercury and Moon – with positive aspects from Jupiter or Venus or Sun – to succeed in a relationship.

Yesterday – a young man came and said “I have fallen in love” – I asked “When did it happen – because till yesterday you were alright.” He said “That’s right – but today while travelling – I saw a beautiful girl.” – I asked “Where did you see her?” He said – at the traffic signal. She was on her bike – and I couldn’t help myself – I fell in love.” – This is how it happens – this young man kept his Mercury aside and has now fallen in love. Now he will start with his efforts – one day he may even succeed – but such a love is short-lived – there is no connection of the soul – the understanding of each other is missing – there has been no dialog – this is infatuation and not love. Just boom boom for few days and then the heat is gone – then again you are wandering in the cold winters of your life.

So on this Valentine – it is necessary to remind yourself that to succeed in a relationship – you need to first become friends. If you remain lovers then love can evaporate after a few days of honeymoon. Real love is known only after the honeymoon. When excitement ends – intimacy grows! In the beginning of a relationship – you are excited – something is going to happen. And when you remain in this relationship for a long period – things settles – then you truly become one with your partner – then you don’t need any excitement – you understand her very well and this understanding becomes the foundation of your relationship! The same is applicable to the Master and the disciple. In the beginning – you come across my podcast – you are excited – this man is saying something new – this man is sharing something unique – the excitement is there – then slowly slowly as you remain with me for a longer period – the excitement is gone – you become more aligned with the essence of my whole being – my sharings – and before you could realize – you have already fallen in love with my sharings! And that is why I say – Real Love happens only when the excitement of honeymoon is over! So whosoever has been with me for a longer time through this channel – they have truly aligned with me – naturally they have melted in my being without known when and how it all happened – that’s love – that’s Valentine!

And so to experience a happy Valentine – it is necessary that along with your looks, your body shape, your artistic talent – you also focus on raising the level of your understanding. A beautiful woman with absolute no depth of understanding is like a bottle of poison whose label says “Its pure nectar”! And a not so beautiful woman with much depth of understanding is a bottle of nectar whose label says “Take with Caution”. This is how the mad mad world is – because you see through your mind and not with your eyes! Discrimination happens because of this – because the mind always loves to discriminate based on caste, color, religion and what not. Love is impossible as long as you continue to see through your mind. Once it happened – there was one such man – he was not beautiful – he was not handsome – he looked ugly – nobody had ever called him “Beautiful”. His name was VINCENT VAN GOGH. And the story is such that His whole life van Gogh was just giving his paintings to friends: to the hotel where he used to eat four days a week he would present a painting, or to a prostitute who had said once to him that he was not a beautiful man. To be absolutely factual, he was ugly. No woman ever fell in love with him, it was impossible.

This prostitute out of compassion — and sometimes prostitutes have more compassion than your so-called ladies, they understand men more — just out of compassion she said, “I like you very much.” He had never heard this. Love was a far away thing. Even liking….

He said, “Really, you like me? What do you like in me?” Now, the woman was at a loss.

She said, “I like your ears. Your ears are beautiful.” And you will be surprised that van Gogh went home, cut off his ears with a razor, packed them beautifully, went to the prostitute and gave his ears to her. And blood was flowing….

She said, “What have you done?”

He said, “Nobody ever liked anything in me. And I am a poor man, how can I thank you? You liked my ears; I have presented them to you. If you had liked my eyes, I would have presented my eyes to you If you had liked me, I would have died for you.”

The prostitute could not believe it. But for the first time, van Gogh was happy, smiling; somebody had liked at least a part of him.

Love is happy when it is able to give something. Ego is happy when it is able to take something. Vincent became a legendary painter – he became world famous for his paintings but after his death. When he was alive – there was nobody who would have appreciated his beauty – and so when the prostitute said casually – even though she didn’t mean what she said – even then – those words – “I like your ears. Your ears are beautiful.” touched his heart – and he presented his ears to her as a gift! How deep is this man – how to express his depth of being – but this is how a man of love is – no doubt he became the greatest painter that the world had ever known – when you have so much of love – so much of depth of being – it is natural that you are exceptional – you are beautiful.

Enough for now – wishing each one of you a very happy Valentine day – deepen your level of understanding and you will be able to save your relationship – you will succeed in your relationship because as the Buddha says – True love is born from understanding – when you understand everything – you forgive everything.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

 

Life is multidimensional – similarly Astrology is also multi-dimensional. Just one bad Venus is not the reason for failures in relationships. Instead a certain family of planets is responsible for failure in relationships. So now I will be discussing about each family member – planet that affect your relationships.

 

Lets begin with Moon – because everything begins with the state of your mind. Mind is the King when it comes to human affairs. And so the very first condition is when Moon is afflicted by Rahu, Ketu, Shani or Mars and is placed in 4th, 8th or 12th house.

The second condition is when the sign lord of the Moon sign is retrograde or combust – example Moon is in Pisces and Jupiter is Retrograde or Combust or afflicted by Rahu, Ketu or Pluto.

So the very first point is to check the state of your Moon (Mind) in the birth chart.

The second family member after Moon is Mercury – Mercury is about applying logic. And so if Mercury is messed up in your chart – then you will be in trouble and such a troubled Mercury will cause many misunderstandings in your relationship. So observe closely the condition of Mercury. If Mercury is retrograde and Jupiter is weak or afflicted or if Mercury is placed in 8th or 12th house in an enemy sign or if Mercury is in Magha,Moola or Ashwini Nakshatra – then your Mercury can create much trouble in your relationship. Professionally you may succeed in your intellectual pursuits but person relationships – you will continue to fail miserably.

The third family member is Saturn. Saturn is extremely important as it governs the 11th house in Kaal Purush Kundali and 11th house is a highly sexual house, house of many desires and house of fulfilment of desires. If Saturn is weak or if Saturn is with Rahu or Ketu or if you have a very close Mars Saturn conjunction then you will tested in your relationship and you may also find yourself unfortunate in the matters of love relationships – you simply fail to hold on to your relationship – you may experience multiple relationship breakups in life.

The fourth family member is Jupiter – Jupiter is Vivek – Jupiter is all about keep your promises! And when you fall in love and when you are in a relationship – you have made promises to each other – promises of love – promises of living together forever – and so these promises will not break only if Jupiter is clean and has no affliction in the birth chart. If Jupiter is in Capricorn and Saturn is afflicted than your relationship will be always in a mess.

Finally the fifth and the utmost important family member is Venus. Many people think that if Venus is in Virgo then relationships fail. That is wrong, relationship fail when Venus is in Virgo and Mercury is combust or retrograde or placed in 8th or 12th house. So don’t just focus on Venus in Virgo – find out the condition of Mercury in your birth chart. Whenever Venus is with Mars – relationships will fail and the native will go through multiple passionate relationships. Whenever Venus is with Ketu – the native may have strange ideas about sex and love – some may even become gay or lesbians. Whenever Venus is with Rahu – too much inclination towards enjoying sex outside marriage. I have known certain folks who are married but they just go out on the streets to sleep with prostitutes. They become obsessed towards enjoying sex with prostitutes or any other woman outside their marrriage. However if Jupiter is strong in their chart then may not sleep with prostitutes but still will have much interest in having extra marital relationships. Whenever Venus is with Sun – the native may face certain sexual issues – I have known certain folks who ejaculate soon or they just can’t get the sexual satisfaction though they don’t fall short in satisfying their female partner. So overall Venus afflicted by Rahu, Ketu, Mars or Sun can cause certain sexual, emotional issues in life. If the chart is very poor in quality then such native commit suicide.

So overall – failure in relationship is not just because of one bad planet – it is because of multiple bad planetary placements and this happens because of your own past life bad karma.

Yesterday – Mohan asked a good question. Mohan said ” If someone abuse me – then is it that someday he will receive the same abuse from me?”

No – it is not necessary that if someone abuse you then a day will come when he too will become a target of abuse but that abuse can come from anybody – not necessary from you.

Similarly – if you caused much havoc and pain in somebody’s love relationship – then not necessary that specific person has to come back in this birth to give you punishment. Somebody else can give you punishment. And so it is not important that who gives punishment – it is important that you get punishment for your past life bad karma.

When a person fails in love then someday the person starts falling in love with God! And that is indeed the very first step towards transformation – and once he starts walking on the path towards God – then there is no looking back!

Few months back I met one such man – he said that he was in love with a beautiful woman and he was so madly in love but then that woman cheated and he was devastated. And then he spend many days in depression when one fine day he met an old man and the old man was walking on the road but the there was something about this old man – his smile, his grace – his presence was divine and so this man rushed towards that old man and touched his feet – and said ” You are somebody – I can feel your divinity – please help me – I am a lost man.”

The old man smiled. His smile was so sweet that the man was touched. The old man looked into his eyes and said “Don’t worry – that is what I do – I bring lost men back home. Come – follow me…”

And then the young man started following the old man and the old man gave him a new perspective towards life. The old man said ” Raghav – the passion and intensity that you had for that woman – if the same passion and intensity you show towards realizing God then how beautiful it will be!”

Those words did the magic. Raghav – that was his name – Raghav’s heart was changed and he was no more the same – he took to God and then there was no looking back.

Raghav’s eyes were filled with tears as he looked up in the sky and said “Log Mohabat Mein Sharabi Bante Hai – Mujhe to tere ishq ne Namazi bana diya.”

Meaning – People become drunkards in ordinary love – but I became a prayerful man in God’s love – spiritual love.

Friends – everything is possible if you have some depth of understanding – but this kind of understanding and transformation comes only if you have at least one supporting planet in your birth chart – else people simply become drunkards in ordinary love. Ordinary love is based on sex, emotions and mutual bonding. Ordinary love is not unconditional. But God’s love – is unconditional – nobody is going to cheat you when you walk towards God – when you are thirsty for God’s love.

Jesus says “If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink.”

The spiritual masters are filled with abundance of unconditional love – whosever comes is welcome. Mahavatar Babaji says – If you come to doubt, I’ll give you every reason to doubt. If you come suspicious, I’ll give you every reason to be suspicious. But if you come seeking Love, I’ll show you more love than you’ve ever known!

So when you fail again and again in relationships then you should know that you are made for the higher calling – you should know that you are not made for ordinary love relationships – you are made for God’s love – you are the special child of God and so you should start walking back home.

That’s what the old man had said to the young man – “My job is to bring you back home – God’s home.”

So come you all – lasting love, eternal love, unconditional love is only possible in God’s Abode – that is where you will find peace – joy and bliss.

Meditate, chant and open your heart – and start your conversations with God.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

The higher the peak – the deeper the valley will be. Near Mount Everest, the deepest valley exists….it can only exist there. When God chooses you – then you will have to sacrifice everything – only then can you reach the top of the mountain – only then can you attain that – which is beyond the mind – only then can you attain that which millions of people aspire to attain – God experience.

When you have come to the realization that you will never have a child – then you should also realize that you are chosen for the ‘Higher Calling’ of God.

Mohan asked “What is a higher calling?”

A higher calling is moving forward in your walk with God. The gift of a higher calling is far superior to the material gifts of this human world.

A ordinary person or a very common soul is very naturally attached to the idea of having a child. It is very common to wish for a child – every common man and woman wish to have a child. Many a times – the person may not want to have a child but comes under the pressure of family and society – because the society always wants you to live the way other people live – the society always is keen on dictating you on what to do and what not to do. The society wants you to follow the well-trodden path on which your father and your forefathers have been walking. The society never wants you try anything new – the society never wants you to think beyond the four walls.

“The society teaches you, ‘Choose the convenient, the comfortable; choose the well-trodden path where your forefathers and their forefathers and their forefathers, since Adam and Eve, have been walking. Choose the well-trodden path. That is a proof- so many millions of people have passed on it, you cannot go wrong.’ But remember one thing: The crowd has never had the experience of truth. Truth has only happened to individuals. Whenever there are alternatives, beware: Don’t choose the convenient, the comfortable, the respectable, the socially acceptable, the honorable. Choose something that rings a bell in your heart. Choose something that you would like to do in spite of any consequences.” – Osho

Many advanced evolved souls have simply dropped the idea of having a child. They remain childless by choice and not by chance.

Many a times it happens – that you become a father or mother and then the child is taken away from you – then what happens? Either you continue to suffer by longing for the child or you simply LET GO. It all depends on the level of your consciousness – the level of your soul. If you are a common soul then you will continue to miss your child and you will hope to re-unite with your child. This attachment towards the child will then effect your spiritual growth – because even though you are meditating and chanting still your mind remains attached with the child – who is no more with you and may never be with you! Many men and women continue to suffer because of their ATTACMENTS with the child. And suffering is always on the mental level. Yesterday – a woman called me and said that she is taking efforts towards her self-growth – but then she asked me “When will I re-unite with my son?” She said – Her son was taken away by her in-laws.

So now you see – this attachment will become a major hurdle in her spiritual progress. No matter where she goes and how much meditation she does – this thought about her separated son will continue to haunt her and she will always remain on the circumference – she will be devoid of spiritual bliss.

I said to her “ What has to happen – has happened. Now you should move on and drop the idea of re-uniting with your son.”

But she was not willing to accept the reality. It is difficult for a soul that is not yet evolved to ACCEPT and move on.

You never know what is going to happen tomorrow – who knows that the son for whom she is longing – may turn out to be evil, may throw her out of the house, may cause much suffering to her? But she is not going to understand this – she is going to remain in her illusions that one day she will meet her son and then everything will be alright but that is not how life is. Buddha says “Life is suffering” – always remember this.

Those who do not have children – think that those who have children are blessed ones.
And those who have child and are suffering because of their children – think that those who do not have child are the blessed ones.

This is how this strange world is. You always feel that by having that which you don’t have – you will find happiness – but in reality that never happens. That is why the master says – THINK BEFORE YOU DESIRE A THING. THERE IS EVERY POSSIBILITY THAT IT WILL BE FULFILLED, and THEN YOU WILL SUFFER.

Many couples struggle to have a child. Their desire is very intense – the desire to have a child. And then when they finally have a child – they think that they are finally blessed. But the ‘movie’ is not yet over – picture abhi baaki hai – and then when the same child grows and becomes an adult – and cause much suffering to them – then they realize that by having a child – they have dug their own graveyard.

One day – a young man and his wife came to meet Buddha. They wanted a child – they have been trying for a child – but no success. So they asked Buddha “When will we have a child?”

Buddha smiled and said “ I have no problem in giving you a child – but what if the child turns out to be an arrogant, ignorant person? I know you both very well – you both are good hearted person – you both are filled with love and devotion – but what if some bad evil harsh offending soul takes birth through your womb? I love you both and so I wanted you to think over this and then come back with your final decision.”

That couple was not an ordinary couple. They both were evolved souls – they started crying – they said “ Master – you are so compassionate that you shared the truth with us. It is your love towards us that you revealed this to us and we can now understand from your insights that if we bear a child then that child is going to cause much pain and suffering to us. We don’t know how to thank you – we are short of words….”

The compassionate master simply gave them an indication that – in their destiny – if they bear a child then that child will turn out to be an evil person – an arrogant ignorant fool. It is also important to note that the couple also has so much depth of understanding – that at that moment itself they decided to not to have a child and dropped the idea of conceiving a child. Blessed are such great disciples – who understand the message of the master.

Yesterday – a man and he is one of the leading businessman of his city – he called and said “My son does nothing. He is 28 years old – he gets up at 10 AM – then spend the entire morning in the gym and then comes home and then enjoys his time by roaming around the town. I am completely disappointed and don’t know what to do. Who will marry him? Because he does nothing – absolutely nothing.”

This is how the state of a man is – who has a child.

So – to all those who are CHILDLESS – I simply want to help you understand that – having a child is not important – QUALITY OF THE CHILD is important – otherwise the child becomes the source of your suffering.

Whenever your 5th house and 5th house lord is connected with 8th house or 12th house or 6th house and whenever 5th house and 5th house lord is connected with RAHU – then definitely you will suffer if you give birth to a child. Your child will become the source of your suffering – remember my words.

Whenever PUTRAKARAK Planet – meaning of all the seven planets – the planet that holds the 5th highest degree – is afflicted by RAHU or SATURN or MARS or if PUTRAKARAK planet is associated with 8th house or 12th house or 6th house – then definitely you will suffer at the hands of your child.

Whenever 5th house lord is in the 4th house and the sign in the 4th house is Virgo – then definitely you will be devoid of happiness from children.

Whenever SUN is weak or debilitated in your birth chart OR whenever SUN is associated with RAHU or KETU or MARS or SATURN – then you will be devoid of happiness from children.

Whenever 5th house lord is RETROGRADE and SATURN or RETROGRADE SATURN casts its 3rd aspect on 5th house – and JUPITER is also RETROGRADE or JUPITER is debilitated or JUPITER is with RAHU or JUPITER is in the 8th house – then definitely you will see issues regarding children – either the native has no children or if he has then he will suffer a lot because of his children.

Whenever Jupiter, Venus and 5th house lord and 5th house is afflicted or weak – you should know that there is absolutely NO happiness from children – so in such a case – if you remain CHILDLESS then that is much better than to suffer at the hands of your children. That is why Buddha says to that couple – “I can help you become mother and father but what if the child turns out to negative and evil by nature?”

Evolved souls are always unconventional by nature. And these evolved souls are primarily under the influence of higher octave planets.

Mohan asked “Which planets are higher octave planets?”

Primarily we have 2 higher octave planets – and those two planets are – URANUS and NEPTUNE.

And since AQUARIUS is ruled by URANUS – unconventionality comes naturally to AQUARIUS. And so many men and women born with Moon in Aquarius or Rahu in AQUARIUS are found to be unconventional – modern and with a very different perspective towards life in general. Similarly whosoever has a STRONG URANUS, NEPTUNE in the birth chart is also a highly unconventional person – and if such a strong URANUS or NEPTUNE gets support of other positive planets then a genius is born – someone as great as RABINDRANATH TAGORE – he had Neptune in his ASCENDANT and his MOON was in conjunction with NEPTUNE – and since NEPTUNE is the higher version of VENUS – he was able to write some of the greatest poems which won him a Noble prize. The 1913 Noble Prize in Literature was awarded to Rabindranath Tagore and the Noble organization quotes that he was awarded the Noble prize “because of his profoundly sensitive, fresh and beautiful verse, by which, with consummate skill, he has made his poetic thought, expressed in his own English words, a part of the literature of the West.” Such is the HIGHER POWER of NEPTUNE.

Evolved souls can be identified based on the placement of URANUS and NEPTUNE – and their connection with the lower octave planets such as Venus, Jupiter, Mars and Moon. It is a very deep subject – will reveal more at some other time.

Being CHILDLESS is actually NOT A PROBLEM for EVOLVED SOULS. Because as mentioned earlier EVOLVED SOULS are UNCONVENTIONAL by nature and so they can do that which is considered as not normal by the so called sane people.

From spiritual progress perspective – if by chance you are CHILDLESS and you are a spiritual person then being childless is the most wonderful development for you – because children becomes the hurdle between you and your spiritual progress. Now this may not go well with every person who is hearing this podcast – but as mentioned this sharing is only for a selective people who have a certain depth of understanding.

The master says ““The major mistakes in bringing up children are many, but I will talk only about the most important. First: the idea that they belong to you. They come through you; you have been a passage, but they don’t belong to you. They are not your possessions. Out of this idea of possessiveness many mistakes arise.”

So by chance if you have a child and you are walking on the spiritual path then you should not entertain the idea that your children belong to you – else this possessiveness towards your child will become the cause of many sufferings in your life.

So having children is okay as long as you don’t become possessive of your children. Once you start thinking that your children are your possessions, you have reduced them into things, because only things can be possessed, not human beings. It is the ugliest act you can do. And those poor children are so helpless, so dependent on you, they cannot rebel. They accept whatever your idea is. And to protect your possessiveness you make them Christians the moment they are born. You make them Hindus, you make them Mohammedans, you make them Buddhists, you make them Jews – you can’t wait!

I come across many mothers and fathers – who are so much possessive of their son and daughters – in the end this possessiveness brings many miseries in their life.

When I will die – there will be no one after me – I am a fakir. And I don’t even think of what will happen when I die – that who will take care of my last rituals – because when the body is dead – the story is over. What is there to wait for? Few years ago I had met a lawyer – and he is a old man. He said to me “ I lost my two sons in a road accident. They were very young. I am now alone but I don’t have to worry – I have made arrangements for my last rituals – there is a young boy whom I have raised – he will take care of my last rituals.”

Now this is how people remain attached – why do you have to make arrangements – why you cannot just let God take care of all your worries? But intellectual men are always looking out for making such arrangements – while a Ketuish man is least bothered on what happens when he is dead. He is not even going to make arrangements for the funeral because he is perfectly aware that someone will find money from his pocket and use it for his final rituals – either they will burn him or bury him – so why the heck he has to worry?

Reminds me of a beautiful story – there was a great master – his name was Ikaasu. He was a very extraordinary human being, of great innocence and joy. He loved to laugh and dance and sing. One day when he was going to die. His disciples asked, ”What are we going to do with your body? –because you have lived such an unconventional life we don’t know whether to bury or burn you. What we are supposed to do?”

And the dying Master opened his eyes, laughed his last laughter, and said, ”Surprise me!” closed his eyes and died!

This is the way of the innocent: ”Surprise me!” Even in death there is innocence, laughter. Even in death there is no complaint. He is waiting to be surprised. Whether you burn him or bury him, decide yourself, but make it a surprise. Don’t ask it, don’t follow any given instructions, because then it will not be a surprise at all. ”If I say bury me or burn me, then I will already know about it.”

You have keep a certain SURPRISE element in life – and so if you are childless then naturally this SURPRISE element remains – you don’t know who is going to do the last rituals for you – and if you are truly an evolved soul – then does that really matter? An evolved soul simply sets out on his or her NEXT journey – the journey towards the beyond. It is said that many souls desire for a place in HEAVEN after death – however Bhagavan Sri Ramana Maharishi specifically mentions that heaven is a very ordinary place to be.

“Heaven is a wastage of time.” – Bhagavan Ramana Maharishi

You see – just the way people think that HEAVEN is the only place to be – similarly common men think that to complete their family – a child is needed – or to be precise – a son is needed! When in reality these ideas are your illusions – there is no reality to it. CHILDLESS men have attained MOKSHA much faster than those who have CHILDREN – simply because there is NO CHILD to get attached to. However those who have CHILDREN can also attain MOKSHA provided they STOP being POSESSIVE of their child and STOP getting attached with your child.

The whole thing comes down to one word – ATTACHMENT – which drives you birth after birth – and you remain where you are – miserable and lost in this vast human world.

Let me tell you – EVEN if the GURU or the MASTER is with you in physical form – STILL the GURU cannot help you overcome your ATTACHMENTS unless and until you start making efforts – efforts to turn inwards and realize the futility of attachments.

A man who is not much affected for not having children – can progress on spiritual path. However a typical woman or man who is constantly thinking about his or her separated child or is feeling depressed for not having a child – will REMAIN stuck and will again fall in the never ending cycle of birth and rebirth.

These things are very difficult to digest – that is why I share it with only few – may be those who are listening to this podcast and are resonating with it – are the chosen ones – for they will be able to move on and progress on their spiritual path. Remember when you are having no child OR when you are separated from your child and if you are a spiritual being – then it is a signal from GOD that the child is not meant for you – you were just biological father or mother – beyond that there is absolutely NO KARMIC balance connected with your child – so drop the attachment and move on. However very few are able to do so and therefore very few become the BUDDHA.

Spirituality therefore is not as easy as it seems to be. Just by growing a long beard and applying tilak on your forehead and adopting some fancy spiritual name will NOT bring any spiritual progress to you – your appearance may attract a few million people but HOW DOES THAT HELP YOU GROW WITHIN?

And so many long beard so called BABAs and SADHUs come to me – and they think I will be impressed by their appearance – they are WRONG – they cannot impress me because I directly see what lies beneath that long beard and fancy dresses. And I DONT HAVE TO FEAR AT ALL because I know who I am and who is my master and so no matter how many of these fake babas try to impress me – I will always be not impressed – because the TRUTH has nothing to do with outer appearances – truth has much to do with what lies beneath.

Once it happened – there was a great spiritual master – his name was Swami Swaroop Ananda. Interestingly he never kept a beard – he always used to get his face clean shaven. And let me tell you he was the greatest spiritual master that the world had ever known. He lived in a small village called PAVAS in Konkan. Few days ago when he was about to take SAMADHI – his disciples invited one person – they thought he had great powers – they thought he was a spiritual master – because his appearance was very attractive – long beard – big TILAK – and so they went and asked Swami Swaroopananda and Swami said “ What you see on the outside – is NOT in the inside.”

The message was loud and clear – don’t take this man as a spiritual master because the spiritual avatar that you see on his outer appearance is completely absent within his being. He is just a spiritual showcase piece.

Always remember a true sannyasa has NOTHING to do with outer appearance. You may roam around in jeans or pajamas or short pants – and still you will be the greatest SANYASI if you have renounced the “I” thought.

Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi quotes – Sannyasa is only the renunciation of the “I” thought and not the rejection of the external objects.

Real spiritual person is NOT the one who says “I have renounced everything” – but the one who says “I am NOT the doer.”

“Even better than the man who thinks “I have renounced everything” is the one who does his duty but does not think “I do this” or “I am the doer”. Even a sannyasi who thinks “I am a sannyasi” cannot be a true sannyasi, whereas a householder who does not think “I am a householder” is truly a sannyasi.” – Bhagavan Ramana Maharshi

When you are NOT the doer – when you no longer take the credit for doing anything that is good – then GOD takes over and when GOD takes over – you don’t have to do anything special – everything happens in its own accord.

Being childless is perfectly fine – if you have a certain depth of understanding. Otherwise there are millions and millions of couples having dozens of children – but are they happy? They may smile on your face – but in their bedrooms – they weep like a child – they suffer because of their children.

And so – let us not make this idea of having a children – mandatory. If you are pressurized for bearing a child – and you are not willing to then you must express yourself and not succumb to the pressure of the society. Remember – whatever happens – happens for a REASON and you still are unaware of that REASON.

“you do not realize now what i am doing, but later you will understand”
– JOHN 

You will understand but till then you should learn to live your life with total acceptance. Accept the fact that GOD wants you to remain childless because there is a much higher purpose to your life – which you are currently unaware of – but later you will understand – you will come to know.

My fellows – every individual is unique. It is wrong to compare and it is wrong to follow the conventions of the society because you are NOT a product – you are NOT a robot – you are a LIVING HUMAN BEING – and you are born for a reason – always remember – you are not born accidently – you are born for a special purpose which you will understand as you start turning inwards – as you start becoming more and more meditative as you start becoming a man of heart and as you start surrendering yourself at the feet of the master.

“Each person comes into this world with a specific destiny–he has something to fulfill, some message has to be delivered,
some work has to be completed.
You are not here accidentally–you are here meaningfully. There is a purpose behind you.
The whole intends to do something through you” – OSHO

When there is a certain emptiness in one aspect of your life – GOD ensures that the other side of your life elevates to new heights. It may happen that one one end you may have no child but on the other end you may have that which millions and millions of people long for!

Always remember – there is NO such thing called LOSER – if one end of the see-saw goes down and the other end always shoots upside! And so there are many many childless couples in this vast human world – who may not have a child but they are so beautiful, so loving, and so highly evolved that even if they don’t have a child – many will come to help them – many will take care of them – you know why?

Because when you live for others – others live for you.

Paramhansa Yogananda had no child – he was a celibate but there were thousand and thousand who would come to serve him – and that too out of love!

Yogananda quotes “There is a magnet in your heart that will attract true friends. That magnet is unselfishness, thinking of others first; when you learn to live for others, they will live for you.”

The bottom line is simple and straight – if you are childless then it is a sign that you are chosen for a higher purpose. There is a higher calling. And it is only when you accept your life in totality – that you will realize the higher purpose – and then you will be able to respond to this higher calling – that only few are blessed with.

Love to all my followers. Stay blessed and remember to meditate every day.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

Sex and Love are two polarities. When there is LOVE there is no idea of sexuality. When there is SEX there is no feeling of Love.

Sexuality is just animal, biological. It can be beautiful if it is part of a deeper love, but if it is NOT part of a deeper love it is the most ugly thing possible; the ugliest. – Osho

This is deep but before we dive in let us first revisit the basics.

The ancient Sanskrit Scriptures mentions a very beautiful verse – अहं ब्रह्मास्मि – ‘Aham Bramhasmi’ meaning I am the Universe.

In simple words – the whole universe is within me.

One of the greatest Sufi Saint – Rumi also relates to the shared TRUTH of our Sanskrit scriptures – when he quotes:

You are not a drop in the ocean. You are the entire ocean, in a drop. – Rumi

So it is natural that all the planets and stars and the energies that they vibrate – is also within us – within each of us.

So all kinds of energies that are on the outside – Divine, Pleasure seeking, Harmful – all kind of energies are within us – there is nothing on the outside – it is all an inside game!

There is no outside of you. It’s all an inside game. – Adyashanti

And so it is necessary to first understand where and how exactly the energies of certain planets operate within our body.

Since the question is about sex and love, let us first understand how the whole sexual act manifests through the play of planetary energies.

MARS operates through the sexual organ.

A young man once asked “But from where does the sexual urge comes and how it comes?”

It is a deep question. Have you all anytime questioned yourself – from where does the sexual urge comes? Only if you are living with consciousness than such a deep question can arise within your being!

The sexual urge comes from the MIND. The MIND sends the ‘signal’ to the BRAIN. The BRAIN functions and processes the signal to your sexual organ and than the actual sexual act executes – and it all happens within a fraction of seconds.

MIND – MOON

BRAIN – MERCURY

SEXUAL ORGANS ACTIVATED – MARS.

So for just one action to complete – three planetsare in play – but yet the action is not complete – it completes only when VENUS comes in play and where is VENUS?

VENUS is in your SPERM (if you are a Male) and VENUS is directly related to you fertility and periods (if you are a FEMALE).

So you see just for one complete act of sex whose goal may be to attain sexual pleasure or along with pleasure attain pregnancy – whatever may be the goal, but 4 major planets energies are required – so the point is that no single planet can deliver a certain result. It always takes a whole combination of planets to deliver – to deliver a certain result.

Manifestation of your wishes is possible with COLLECTIVE energies of specific planets.

MIND is by nature sexual – BHOGI.

A YOGI lives in the state of NO MIND. So the question of SEX never arise in his being! As long as you are enslaved by your MIND – as long as you remain a slave of your MIND – you remain in the trap of sexual desires – the moment you slip out of MIND – you experience LOVE – pure love – with absolute no idea or thoughts of SEX!

My newly published book – NO MIND is now available worldwide on Amazon sites and it specifically emphasis on the futility of MIND and how life can become a garden of bliss the moment you take efforts to reach from MIND to the state of NO MIND.

You all can avail a copy for yourself. I am certain that to insightful individuals, this book will prove to be a great motivator. The book is now available on Amazon and Flipkart.

People want children. They want to become father and mother. But they miss to understand that just having a good fifth house or bad fifth house lordship does not conclude.

For that the whole picture has to be seen in TOTALITY.

When a childless couple tries to have children they fail miserably. The focus is on having sex – just sex. Love is missing!

Understand this. This is deep. You can either LOVE or either have SEX. LOVE and SEX cannot go hand in hand – LOVE is of the heart. SEX is of the MIND. When you are deeply in love – you just penetrate – two bodies become one – at that moment there is absolutely NO IDEA of having sex – it is just like two flames merging with each other!

The idea of sex is of the MIND. The feeling of love is of the HEART.

No idea of sex in the mind and you can make love to a woman, and the woman can make love to you not thinking of sex at all. The whole point is where your mind is. If you are thinking of sex, if your mind is obsessed with sex, you simply want to use the woman, the woman simply wants to use you, it is ugly.  – Osho

SEX is not a problem – not even a question – when there is love. You don’t even realize the fact that you are doing SEX – because there is LOVE!

But when there is just the goal of having SEX – suddenly you become alert – now the question of ‘performance’ comes – now the question of ‘duration’ comes – now many questions arise which would never arise when you are deeply in love – when in love all the actions happen on its own – naturally – the MIND has absolutely NO ROLE to play – the HEART is in action and the HEART knows nothing of ‘techniques’ or ‘duration’ – it just goes on and on – until the highest peak of ‘sexual bliss’ is attained!

You can make love when you are in love – and when you are in love there is absolutely no idea of sex in the mind – you just attain to highest peak of sexual bliss – orgasm – without putting any special efforts – any special techniques!

SEX is NOT the function of the HEAD. Understand this. But when SEX enters in through the head it becomes sexuality. Then you THINK about sex, then you fantasize about sex. And then you have lost yourself – because now you are not living in the REAL world – you are lost in your MIND – and the MIND makes sure that you become more miserable than you already are!

LOVE and SEX are two polarities. Love can liberate you from SEX – but it is a long journey and the most wonderful journey you will ever be on!

A young man married a handicapped woman. They never had much of sex, but that never made them fall apart – because the depth of LOVE was so much – that SEX was not at all a question in their life!

LOVE can liberate you from SEX.

When love reaches perfection, the absence of sex automatically follows. A life of love and absence from physical pleasures is called celibacy (brahmacharya), and anyone who wishes to be free from sex must develop his capacity to love. Freedom from sex cannot be achieved through suppression. Liberation from sex is only possible through Love. – Osho

Love is the creative refinement of sex energy.

We all have sex energy within us – this energy is of MARS. All men and all women who attained the highest state of spiritual enlightenment had sex energy within them – but than what did they do with it – they transformed this sexual energy into the highest spiritual energy. But how did they do it?

And the answer is in simple words. These great men and women did not FIGHT against their sex energy – they did NOT repress or suppressed it – they did NOT try to condemn it – instead they tried to understand it – the way of its working – from where does it come – why it comes and how it can be transformed.

The word is ‘UNDERSTAND’ – and how can you understand – only when you don’t hate this energy that is in its lower form – rather you accept it, and then you transform this energy into – higher love.

The meditative person can transform his sexuality without any antagonism. without any conflict. He is in deep friendship with all his energies, sexual or others; he is not in any fight. Why fight with your own energies? Love them, rejoice in them, and help them to transcend the lower forms, the animal forms. Let them move from the body towards the turiya, the fourth. – Osho

SEX is possible just for fun. For pleasure. BUT Love is intense. Love is very intense – Love is not fun, in fact Love is something that only a courageous person can dare to do! To love – tremendous courage is required – one is willing to drop everything just for the sake of LOVE!

Understand the fact that SEX is an act. Love is a very intense feeling. And so you cannot be loving if you are not courageous. You cannot be trusting if you are not courageous. You cannot inquire into reality if you are not courageous. Hence couragecomes first and everything else follows.

Love Is A Dangerous Path And Only Those Who Have Courage Can Travel It. To Love Means To Drop The Ego, To Drop Yourself, Love Means – Not To Be. – Osho

Life can be sacrificed to Love BUT Love cannot be sacrificed to Life.

Love is of higher value than life. There is divinity, there is joy, when you live for someone, when you die for someone!

Once it happened, a young man was in love with a woman who was elder to his age. She must be 6 years elder to him. But LOVE knows NO AGE, NO CASTE, NO RELIGION! Society creates all sorts of rules which in the KINGDOM OF GOD holds NO truth. Understand the fact that it is this SOCIETY that has given you the MIND – MIND is not natural – MIND has been given to you by the society and the MIND is a monkey.

Your Mind Is Nothing But A By-Product Of The Society In Which You Are Born, It Is The Society Speaking Through You. It Is Not You – You Are Hidden Behind The Mind. -Osho

Whatever you speak, follow is controlled by the Society and that is how you all go on missing the TRUTHS. Because the Society would never want you to know the TRUTH, the Society would never want you to be yourself! The Society is always afraid of an individual – and so from the very beginning time – society has gone against the greatest individuals that the world had ever known – Buddha, Jesus, Muhammad, Mahavira, Sai Baba – and so many – they all were troubled by the society of their times – it always happens, that is the way of its happening!

People Don’t Want To Mear The Truth Because They Don’t Want Their Illusions Destroyed. – Friedrich Nietzsche

Society loves to live in illusions. An individual loves to live in the TRUTHS.

The young man was an individual, he was a follower of his heart. And he loved the woman. And soon love happened. They were deeply in love. They lived on the border of India Pakistan. And one day War broke between the two countries. And there was firing across the borders, the enemy was firing madly…..

The young woman suddenly got trapped in this round of firings…her father and mother gave up all the hopes that they had, it was impossible for her to come out of the firings, she was trapped, death was evident.

When the young man came to know that the LOVE of his life is trapped and there is no way for her to come out…..he decided to JUMP! He just decided to go for it…

For LOVE – life can be risked, life can be sacrificed…

Her father said to the young man “What are you doing? Are you mad?”

LOVE is MAD and therefore LOVE is beautiful!

The young man said “She is my friend, I love her more than myself. I will go and get her back.”

Her father said “ If you go – you too will be dead.”

The young man looked into the eyes of her father and said “It doesn’t matter” and he went to find her.

It is very difficult in the dark and there are hundred of corpses all around. He looked and looked and in the middle of the night he returned, dragging his friend’s body on his back….he himself was terribly wounded and was bleeding….

The moment he reached his lover’s home he fell on the floor with the body of his dead friend. The father of his friend burst out in tears and said “ I told you not to be foolish….I knew she was trapped and there was no way for her to come out – we had accepted the fact that she is going to be no more with us but what have you done to yourself. Your friend is dead and you are also dying….”

The dying man opened his eyes and he said “BUT it was WORTH it. Because when I went there, she looked at me and said, “Mohan, I knew you would come.”

For LOVE, life can be sacrificed – it is WORTH it.

Those who claim that they loved you but cannot marry you. Those who came up with EXCUSES – has not really understood the depth of the word LOVE. They have not really loved you in true sense!

Love is not ‘If’ or ‘Because’. Love is ‘Anyway’ and ‘Even though’ and ‘In spite of ‘.

It is an irony that the society dictates you that just to survive – sacrifice everything. Just to be alive – sacrifice everything. BUT then what is the value of such a life? It is simply worthless – a living body without a soul.

The word FRIEND itself is very deep. It is more than family. Always remember – and I say it to all my followers, readers and fellow travelers – YOU can sacrifice and not Love. But you cannot Love and not sacrifice!

Tue love is selfless. It is prepared to sacrifice. – Sadhu Vaswani

When you are walking on the street – you offer help, you offer love to those whom you trust. Now some of them will express their gratitude, some will resonate with your love, some will relate with you, some will offer back love to you in abundance and some will bite you, cheat you! Now tell me – and I appeal to all my followers, all my readers and fellow travelers – tell me – whom to blame? There is absolutely NOTHING WRONG with your KARMA – you are just a beautiful darling – the CHILD OF GOD who loves, who shares love – those who can understand will relate – those who cannot will condemn you, ridicule you, turn their back on you! And those who are utterly negative will stab in your back. The problem is NOT with you or your KARMA, the problem is with the other person who CANNOT relate to the depth of your love, your sharing, your caring.

So let this be very clear that FAILURE IN LOVE RELATIONSHIPS has absolutely NOTHING to do with your KARMA. Always remember LOVE never fails you – relationships may fail – but LOVE never fails – LOVE is the very source of your LIFE – no matter how many relationships break – you always have abundance of LOVE within you – and so the journey of love never ends.

Embark on the journey of LOVE. It takes you from yourself to yourself. – Rumi

We are born out of LOVE. And when we surrender to LOVE – our journey becomes a journey of bliss, a journey of peace.

Lovers never surrender to each other, lovers simply surrender to Love. – Osho

When true lovers meet and they fall in love – they surrender to love – they do not surrender to each other – they simply surrender to LOVE that is blossoming between them!

When you VALUE the LOVE that is between you and your lover, when you UNDERSTAND the depth of LOVE between you and your lover, there is absolutely NO question of fighting or arguing or doubting – because you have surrender to the LOVE that is between you and your lover!

DOUBT is DEATH. You will doubt your lover because your LOVE is still NOT total. The moment your LOVE has become a full moon, the moment your love has attained its TOTALITY – there is absolutely no question of doubting – doubting happens when you become POSSESSIVE and possessive nature KILLS love. The moment you tend to be possessive – LOVES ceases to exist!

Love is not possessiveness; many people think that’s what love is:you possess somebody totally. To possess somebody is to destroy all possibility of love. – Osho

Possessiveness is the false love. Hatred is better – at least it is true. And hatred can become love any day, but possessiveness can NEVER become love.

What is love? – once a young man asked.

Love in simple words – is that YOU are ready to merge yourself into the other. Love means the OTHER is now important that you can lose yourself in LOVE! Love is TOTAL SURRENDER!

Now tell me – ask yourself – and I appeal to all my followers, readers and fellow travelers – ask yourself – Have you ever fallen in love?

And if your answer is YES – than my next question is – have you surrendered yourself TOTALLY to LOVE – have you become a ‘nobody’? Because you can LOVE only if you become a nobody – if you remain a ‘somebody’ than LOVE cannot happen – LOVE is possible only when there is absolutely NO EGO – when you are willing to JUMP – when there is absolutely NO MIND – but only your HEART – only than LOVE can blossom, can grow within you! And when love starts growing within your being – you no more remain a child, you mature to the point where you are no more in love – you are love.

Fallinginloveyouremainachild;risinginlove you mature. By and by love becomes not a relationship, it becomes a state of your being. Not that you are in love – now you are love. – Osho

And the moment you are LOVE – the question of SEX does not arise! Because LOVE is higher than your physical sex. And let me tell you all – LOVE has the power to TRANSFORM a stone into an idol!

That reminds me of Amrapali! Amrapali was the most beautiful woman that the world would have ever known! She was born under a Mango tree and so her name – Amrapali! And it is a story of very old times…

It happened so that Gautama Buddha with his disciples arrived in her town. And Amrapali – her beauty – how to describe – she was so beautiful that even the greatest priest of any temple may forgot all about scriptures and just dream of having her – she was so beautiful!

And one day from her palace she saw one young disciple of Buddha. And the young disciple was also a handsome man. But he was monk. A very very deeply engrossed monk. And she would observe him everyday – and she thought that the monsoon season has started so why not welcome the young handsome monk to her house!

Buddhist monks during the four months of monsoon – don’t move – they remain at one place. And so Amrapali – the most beautiful woman welcomed the young monk – she said to him “ It is going to rain for the next four months – I would love to provide you shelter at my palace – please come and stay with me.”

The young monk said, “I will ask my master. If he allows me, I will come.”

The other monks were present – when they heard about such an offer – they became angry. They all rushed to Buddha. They said ” The young monk should be stopped. A monk staying four months with such a woman…..”

Buddha said ” You all keep calm. Let him come. He has not agreed, he has agreed only if I allow him. Let him come.”

The young monk came, touched the feet of Buddha and told the whole story. He said “That woman is a famous dancer – Amrapali. She has asked me to stay for four months in her house. Every monk will be staying somewhere during these four months of monsoon season. I have told her that I will ask my master, so I am here…whatever you say – master….I will follow”

Buddha looked into his eyes and said “You can stay with her.”

It was a shock for all the hundreds of monks who were present. There was a great silence, but great anger, great jealousy. They could not believe that Buddha has allowed a monk to stay in a beautiful dancer’s house.

After three days, the young monk left to stay with Amrapali and the monks every day started bringing gossips – all kind of gossips – dirty gossips.

Buddha said “You all should be silent. Four months will pass and I trust my monk. I have looked into his eyes – there was no desire. If I had said NO – he would not have felt anything. I said YES..he simply went. And I trust in my monk, in his awareness, in his meditation.”

Nobody knew what was going to happen – whether the monk will change Amrapali. Or whether Amrapali will change the monk.

But the monk was not an ordinary monk. He must be like me. He was a great lover of his master. He was a highly meditative person. He was no more meditating – he was meditation! And so after four months – the young monk comes – and he comes not alone – but he comes with Amrapali! And Amrapali rushed to Buddha and fell at Buddha’s feet and said “I tried my best to seduce your monk, but he seduced me. He convinced me by His presence and awareness that the real life is at your feet. I want to give all my possessions to the commune of your monks. And lastly I want to become your disciple…..master…please accept me as your disciple…..”

Buddha raised her up and blessed her. And Amrapali – became one of the most ardent follower of Buddha – a dancer was transformed into the greatest lover of GOD – that the world had ever known! LOVE can transform. Meditation can transform. Awareness can transform. And she experienced all of these in that young monk – that she realized her own ‘poverty’ and the ‘richness’ of the monk – his bliss, his peace his joy – she invited him to seduce him with her beauty – but she herself was seduced by the grace of His presence – by his awareness, his purity of being!

It is this same Amrapali – who later became one of the most enlightened disciple of Buddha.

I therefore insist to all my meditative followers and readers – that if your meditation is deep – if your understanding has gone deeper – if you have become a man of heart – if your awareness is growing – than no matter how many beautiful woman you may come across – it is not they who will transform you – it is YOU who can transform them and help them to attain the higher realms of awareness – consciousness – only if they have a certain depth of understanding that Amrapali had!

Certain hypocrites avoid looking at beautiful woman’s face! I don’t understand why. If there is nothing wrong in your being – than what is the problem in looking at someone who is beautiful!

Some hypocrites came up with a story – that Laxman never looked at Sita – because she was too beautiful!

Now all such stories are the result of a mind that is afraid to face beauty – because it cannot control its desires! And so then such minds come up with such fake stories!

Understand the fact that if your Mind is purified – if your eyes are beautiful and pure than even if the most beautiful woman stands before you – you would wonder – that how great it would have been – had your mother or sister be so beautiful!

When Chattrapatti Shivaji Maharaj acquired the kingdom of Kalyan – the queen of Kalyan was brought before him – and she was extremely beautiful – but looking at her the great King says “How great it would have been if my mother would have been as beautiful as you are!”

And then the great King Chatrapatti Shivaji Maharaj – sends her back with respect and love!

So NEVER blame any woman – if you have fallen from your grace than it is purely because of your IGNORANCE and nothing else.

If you suffer it is because of you, if you feel blissful it is because of you. Nobody else is responsible – only you and you alone. You are your hell and your heaven too. – Osho

Love has no expectations. So when people say that my boyfriend ditched me or girlfriend ditched me – than somewhere the LOVE was not in totality. Because real love has absolutely no expectations.

Once a great master was saying to a woman who had lost her lover – her lover had abandoned her – she was crying, she was in pain – the master looked into her eyes and just asked one question “ You loved her totally – right?”

She said “ Yes – very much.”

Then the master said “ Than that is all!”

You have loved. He may not have. But the final answer – the final truth is that – YOU HAVE LOVED and you have loved him totally – tremendously – deeply and that is what love is all about! Love has no expectation – if you have loved – than that is all!

That is all that you should treasure all your life – because the experience of falling in love comes not to all human beings – it has come to you – it has grown within you – you should not cry, you should not repress – you should be thankful – because TRUE LOVE is rare to find – it is indeed the greatest gift that one could have – one moment of LOVE!

If you can be Love, you have Not Missed anything – because a single moment of Love is equal to the whole Eternity of Love. – Osho

Only a man who can LOVE – can meditate! Only a woman who can LOVE – can meditate!

So come, come you all – I know you all have been hurt – it always happens – a lovable person often is hurt many times in life – GOD always loves to test HIS fellows. Only the CHOSEN ONE is tested by GOD. That is why I always say that those who are suffering, those who have been cheated, ridiculed, insulted, offended, – such men and women are truly the blessed ones! Because GOD tests only those whom he LOVES the most! Only when you are tested and you stand to HIS tests – that you become HIS messenger – God’s messenger – God’s fellow – God’s fool!

God Never Uses Anyone Greatly Until He Tests Them Deeply. – A.W. Tozer

You all have been following this God’s fool, so it means that sooner or later you all too are on your way to become God’s fool!

And how beautiful it is to be God’s fool! There is absolutely NO HEAD – NO LOGIC – NO INTELLECTUALISM – NO IDEA OF ‘I AM SOMEBODY’ – how beautiful it is when you take the backseat and let GOD drive your life!

Let GOD drive your life – HE can do more than you can.

One good reason we should pray: God Can do more in a second than we can do for ourselves in a lifetime!

So you just RELAX. Unless you RELAX – there is no coming to the TRUTH. There is no coming to GOD. You all find it difficult to relax because the MIND never wants to relax – the MIND is always wanting to do more – getting to somewhere – getting to something…..but you all – my fellows – you all have to become wise – and turn to meditation – it is only through meditation that you can control the monkey mind – it is only through meditation that you can make love – it is only through meditation that you can self-realize the true essence of love!

But the first thing that you all have to learn is to RELAX.

What I’m trying to do here is to get you to relax, to not be so preoccupied with getting, so you can respond to God’s giving. – Love, Jesus.

Sit down. Close your eyes. Breath deeply. Focus on your breathing. Focus on your lord’s holy name. Repeat. And Repeat and go on repeating until the MIND relaxes – only then love is possible, only then the journey beyond is possible.

Relax. Just relax and let your whole body surrender to the existence – let the existence take over – you just relax.

Respect your uniqueness and drop all comparison. Just Relax into your being.

The greater the depth of your meditation, the greater you can Relax.

The key to attain the highest stage of relaxation is through meditation.

Meditate.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

I love Pisces women.

In fact, from all the 12 zodiac signs – I love the Pisces. And it has never been a question of who is my favorite – it has always been Pisces! No – not because there is someone in my life who is Pisces – but based on my experiences with so many people – I am in love with Pisces!

Why Pisces? – And this is deep and this is significant to me – Pisces is the 12th sign – it is the ultimate space of MOKSHA – the final liberation! And I love KETU. Ketu is Shri Ganesha – and 12th house is the house where KETU feels home!

And then this sign is of Shri Guru – Jupiter – the KING of KINGS, the KING of this whole universe! And so people of this sign – are by nature very cool, peaceful and also very understanding! Anytime a wife of Pisces for a man – or a man of Pisces for a woman is a safe bet!

Whenever I have come across Pisces – be it in the US, India or wherever I travel – they truly are sweet people! They are harmless when compared to other signs – they are a song, they are poem, they are a dance! And it is always a pleasure to meet someone who is Pisces – look at this – it is the exact opposite of Virgo – a sign that ‘kills’ you by analyzing everything – so much so – that they are all brains unless there is a favorable aspect – and look at Pisces – they are all heart!

If Virgo is Judas – the Pisces is Jesus and Jesus is all for love – and so a Pisces man or woman are not discriminating by nature – they understand the essence of humanity more than any other sign – remember it is also the sign of MOKSHA – here the moon relaxes – and meditation can only happen when you can relax!

Just relax and let things be as they are. A very very passive awareness- that is the meaning of meditation. – Osho

And so if all other aspects are supportive – a Pisces man or woman can progress much faster in the art of meditation!

Overall – it is a lovely sign – the end, the climax, the melting point when the head melts into the heart and you simply become a man of heart – man of faith – man of awareness – and that’s being a true Pisces – it is the height of spiritualism – it is the height of love – it is the purest love – that is why Venus exalts in Pisces – love blossoms, celebrates in the abode of Pisces! Pisces – I love you – and I don’t care what the world thinks about you – but I would always love you!

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

The whole source of the Love that you seek – is in the FIFTH house of your birth chart.

LOVE is one thing. Marriage is other thing. Marriage is only a working partnership. LOVE is something else, altogether different than what marriage is!

Marriage is the decision of the intellect. Love is an entirely different matter. – Osho

Love has absolutely no relation to LOGIC, to RULES, to INTELLECT – it is quite unconnected to thought. Love HAPPENS – the word ‘HAPPEN’ is beautiful – I personally love this word – because whatever HAPPENS is never planned – it just ‘happens’!

Life is also something that – happens! Love, Life is never planned – it just happens. And so does – SANNYAS!

Love is Life, Love is God, Love is Sannyas. – Osho

That is the reason why 5th house is significant. That is the reason why 5th Lord is significant. And that is the reason why LOVE is significant.

Love needs tremendous COURAGE! When a man or woman is fired up with LOVE – they can go to any extent to attain the LOVE that they SEEK.

5th house also signify COURAGE. Remember 5th house is represented by the SIGN LEO – the LION!

Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the little voice at the end of the day that says I’ll try again tomorrow. – Mary Anne Radmacher

Love is the ‘source’ that brings COURAGE. This LOVE can be the LOVE for a person or for the NATION! Freedom Fighters became fighters because they had tremendous LOVE for the NATION – Bhagat Singh, Lokmanya Tilak, Veer Savarkar – Mahatama Gandhi and many freedom fighters were aflamed with LOVE for our country – it is always LOVE that ‘triggers’ the whole story of life, it is always LOVE that brings life to our being.

Without LOVE a man is just a body, an empty temple without the DEITY. With LOVE the DEITY arrives, the temple is no more empty. – Osho

In the beginning you are seeking LOVE. Then someday and at someplace – you FALL in love. But the real ‘maturity’ comes when you no more fall in love but you become love!

Falling in love you remain a child; rising in love you mature. By and by love becomes not a relationship, it becomes a state of your being. Not that you are in love – now you are love.

The whole purpose of LIFE is to become LOVE!

Love is the GOAL – Life is the journey to attain the GOAL – LOVE!

Only a man who can become LOVE – can live LIFE in totality and only a man who can live life with LOVE – can one day attain the BUDDHAHOOD – (Sannyas)!

It is all inter-connected, and the thread that connects LOVE, LIFE, SANYAS is LOVE!

A man or woman whose 5th house is aflame with MARS – SUN – JUPITER or VENUS or MOON is indeed a man of LOVE – he loves ROMANCE. But one must understand that ROMANCE can of many layers – from the base to the high level!

One must understand that the Oxford dictionary defines the words ROMANCE as a kind of ADVENTURE!

And Adventures can of many levels and of all kinds – and the very first ADVENTURE that LOVE initiates is to ‘JUMP’ into the unknown!

Once you are in LOVE, once you are aflame with LOVE – once your whole being is fired up with LOVE – you can JUMP – you will JUMP!

That is how many LOVERS have JUMPED and RISKED their life – and there has been absolutely NO REGRET – because LOVE never REGRETS – when you LOVE, you simply LOVE!

And when this LOVE is raised to the HIGHER ALTITUDES – SPIRITUALISM – then you have someone as beautiful as JOHN, the baptist, Peter, the fisherman, Ananda, Arjuna – who has so much LOVE for their master – that they never looked back, never asked a single question, never raised any doubts – they SIMPLY JUMPED into the unknown – the followed the Master!

The love that happened between John and jesus, the love that happened between Sariputta and Buddha, Gautama and Mahavira, Arjuna and Krishna, Chuang Tzu and Lao Tzu – these are the real love stories, the highest pinnacles of love.- Osho

Love has many layers – the love that Buddha has will of different quality than the love that Hitler has! Hitler’s love will be hot – that is what the commoners know about love – to them LOVE always have to be HOT! Even when they eat dog – they want HOT DOG! So the concept of LOVE for the commoners is of HOT LOVE, SEXUAL LOVE.

But Buddha…..Buddha’s love is like that cool breeze, there is no demand, no conditions, when you in the omnipresence of Buddha – the love that you receive is different than the HOT LOVE that you have known.

The HOT LOVE that people have is not LOVE in totality – it also has the shade of HATE. The ‘fights’ is a result of that HATE – when the fight is over – you cool down and then again you are in the bed – making LOVE! You see – this is how the LOVE of the physical world is!

But BUDDHA – in BUDDHA’s LOVE you will find absolutely no shade of hate and so many may also find BUDDHA’s love as BORING because there is no ‘spice’ in HIS love!

You may say anything to HIM and yet he is NOT going to react. HE is simply going to SMILE and HIS smile is so penetrating that if you can receive – then his smile can simply penetrate into the deepest valleys of your heart and move you within!

Buddha is the highest the purest state of LOVE that knows only to SHARE, to GIVE and just to GIVE!

You can only GIVE if you HAVE!

Buddha has it – in fact Buddha is not just filled with LOVE – BUDDHA is LOVE!

Before leaving his body – Buddha had said to his disciples “ Do NOT make statue of me because once I am gone, I am gone. The statue can go on deceiving you for centuries.”

For five hundred centuries no statue was made. But later people started building statues of Buddha – when Buddha himself had said “ Do NOT make statue of me.”

There is a very deep meaning to the beautiful message that Buddha had shared with his disciples – and it is significant for you all to understand.

It is always easy to follow a STATUE – it is of BUDDHA but it is DEAD. It cannot move you – cannot disrupt you – cannot pull you away from your illusions!

But ALIVE BUDDHA – can ask you to do something that is in your interest but not in your favor! The ALIVE BUDDHA can ask you to drop everything and FOLLOW HIM – then it will be difficult because you are attached to each and everything – right from your CAR, HOME, to your WIFE and children and so ALIVE BUDDHA is dangerous – a STATUE is BETTER! Make nice STATUE – offer a nice garland of beautiful flowers – burn an incense stick – and that is all! You are safe – the STATUE is NOT going to ask for anything – you can safely say that I LOVE THE STATUE – but you will think twice if in the place of the STATUE – the REAL BUDDHA – the ALIVE BUDDHA is present because then the master is not dead – he is ALIVE and people always find it a challenge to follow the MASTER’s word – because THOSE words disrupt the MIND – and you are still caught up with the MIND – the MIND loves STATUES of MASTERS (it is a safe bet) – but the same MIND will start shivering if the REAL BUDDHA comes – because BUDDHA is the state of NO MIND and LOVE exists only when there is NO MIND but only the heart – the consciousness!

This no-mind is the Buddha, beyond this no-mind, you wull never find another Buddha. To search for enlightenment or nirvana, beyond this no-mind, is impossible. The reality of your own self-nature, the absence of cause and effect is what is meant by no-mind. Your no-mind is Nirvana. – Osho

To conquer others – you may succeed someday, at some birth cycle. But to conquer your MIND – to become the Master of your Mind – is NOT so easy. It may take a lifetime or many births until – the ‘Buddha’ is born.
“Buddha” is not a name, it is a title. It is a title that reveals the state of NO MIND. Buddha means the state of NO MIND. Buddha is NO MIND.

NO MIND – means NO LOGIC, NO HEAD – and LOVE HAPPENS only when there is NO LOGIC, NO HEAD – absolutely NO HEAD.

Love is many things, none of them logical

There are many aspects that may initiate LOVE MARRIAGE – one of them is when the fifth house lord connects in some way with the seventh house – a strong possibility of a Love Marriage is signified.

Rarely does one find LOVE in MARRIAGE! There are ‘individuals’ who are destined to find LOVE only OUTSIDE marriage. Universe is vast – very vast – the MIND cannot contain the VASTNESS of this UNIVERSE – and so people who are slaves of their MIND cannot feel the VASTNESS and along with it the many many millions and millions of SITUATIONAL SCENARIOS that evolve in certain ‘individual’s’ life!

There are many such – in millions around this VAST HUMAN WORLD – who enjoy sexual pleasures, emotional support, hand-holding only OUTSIDE MARRIAGE and not in marriage!

So MARRIAGE definitely has NOTHING do with LOVE. In a rare case – in exceptional cases – if marriage happens out of LOVE – then it is a different thing – but statistics show that maximum DIVORCE CASES are from LOVE MARRIAGES than otherwise!

Why has marriage failed? In the first place, we raised it to unnatural standards. We tried to make it something permanent, something sacred, without knowing even the abc of sacredness, without knowing anything about the eternal. Our intentions were good but our understanding was very small, almost negligible. So instead of marriage becoming something of a heaven, it has become a hell. Instead of becoming sacred, it has fallen even below profanity. – Osho

But still ‘MARRIAGE’ remains an institution that is going to remain forever – for the sole reason – that MARRIAGE is a part of tradition – a practical MEDIUM – to attain material GAINS!

During the Imperial Age – the KINGS would have many marriages with many women of princely states – because those MARRIAGES would SECURE the material gains and strengthen his authority over more provinces and more people.

So MARRIAGE is always going to remain – it is not a necessity but it has been made compulsory – because it has absolutely NOTHING to do with LOVE – but more to do with STATUS, and SOCIETY!

For LOVE – only 5th house and 5th house LORD’s connection with VENUS is enough.

For LOVE MARRIAGE – the 7th house connection with the 5th house is necessary.

Generally women or men having MARS VENUS conjunction are highly sexual by nature – and they also look very HOT. So sexuality is seen but this sexuality has absolutely nothing to do with marriage.

VENUS MOON – again is a highly sexual woman or man. This is also a pleasure seeking BHOGI person – and enjoys many sexual pleasures in life – along with other luxuries of life.

VENUS RAHU – again highly sexual – wants MORE sex – real time sex that LAST LONGER – and not just get over in 5 minutes.

VENUS URANUS – this person likes to have unique way of doing SEX – they always try out new things to add excitement to their sexual experiences. Erotic sex is something they love to explore – and are generally out of the box thinkers when it comes to having sex.

VENUS NEPTUNE – this person lacks actual ACTION in the BED. He goes on imagining and fantasizing – and in the process bores the partner (if the partner is strong sexual being). Because the partner wants some hard sex – and this person simply is too soft and kills all the fun that the partner expects.

Human life comes with many flavors – and HUMAN becomes GODLY – when there is absolutely NO flavor left – NIRGUNA – when there is no SATVIC guna, no TAMASIC Guna, and no RAJAS Guna – NIRGUNA!

NAR – to – NARAYAN. That is the whole journey – my fellows, that is the whole journey – NAR (HUMAN) nature is of being BHOGI (pleasure seeking) and NARAYAN is the nature of being YOGI (God seeking)!

God is a person, godliness is a quality. You cannot become God, but you can be godly. – Osho

Births happen – today a woman is not happy in her marriage, not satisfied sexually in her marriage – she will come back – today a man is not happy in his marriage, not satisfied sexually in his marriage – he will come back. This is how the cycle of birth and rebirth continues – you keep coming back- and SOCIETY has made this more complicated because SOCIETY blocks the men and women to seek sexual pleasures from else where – and then there is no other option – the man/woman dies with the DESIRE unfulfilled – and takes BIRTH again to satisfy the unfinished business!

This whole cycle of rebirth could have been avoided – had they satisfied their desire in the same life itself! But the question of wrong doing and right doing comes in between them and their desires – indeed a very touching situation – that only a master can understand – because the master is BEYOND the society’s so called ‘WRONG DOING’ and ‘RIGHT DOING’ theories.

Out beyond ideas of wrong-doing and right-doing, there is a field… I’ll meet you there. – Rumi

The master can understand YOU. The real GURU will ACCEPT you without asking you a single question. The real master will NEVER judge you – HE can understand your heart than anybody else would!

Always remember MORALITY is SUBJECTIVE – is totally SITUATIONAL BASED. MORALITY is totally based on your level of CONSCIOUSNESS.

Remember Sri Krishna – remember the many ways that otherwise are not considered to be ethical that Krishna implemented during the Mahabharata War? Now would you call Krishna immoral? NO that would sound too stupid! Because what KRISHNA did was spontaneous – his morality was spontaneous and in the state of TOTAL CONSCIOUSNESS.

WHATEVER YOU DO – IF YOU ARE DOING IT WITH CONSCIOUSNESS – WITH FULL AWARENESS than that is the real morality – it is NOT fake – it is NOT because of any outside pressure – it is spontaneous, and very much a result of your own consciousness!

My whole effort is to make your morality spontaneous. You should be conscious and alert, and respond to every situation with absolute consciousness. Then whatever you do is right. It is not a question of actions being right or wrong, it is a question of consciousness – whether you are doing it consciously or unconsciously like a robot. – Osho

Rumi when says “ I will meet you on a field which is beyond the ‘wrong doing’ and ‘right doing’” – HE addresses the FIELD of CONSCIOUSNESS!

How beautiful is this and how deep – only a meditative being can truly relate, can truly understand. Bliss. Pure bliss.

5th house is very important because LOVE is very important! Without 5th house and 5th house Lord support – LOVE is missed, it is simply missed!

And only a man who can LOVE – can also LOVE someday GOD – can also go to the extremes to experience GOD – can also become a BUDDHA! Because he can JUMP – he can be COURAGEOUS – he can go beyond MIND – and only a man who can GO BEYOND MIND – can do something that is OUT OF MIND!

A man who has gone all HIS way to attain the LOVE of his life, has all the ‘necessary’ qualities to attain GOD – such a man *is* SPIRITUAL because LOVE is SPIRITUAL and HE has already surrendered to LOVE – so going a step ahead – crossing the boundary of the KINGDOM is not going to be difficult for him – and that is what Prince Siddhartha did – when time came, when the CALL OF THE DIVINE came – he simply left his KINGDOM – and became the BUDDHA – Gautama Buddha!

Only a man who can dive – who can JUMP can become a BUDDHA someday. And you will dive, you will jump, you will show courage only when you are truly a follower of your HEART!

That is the reason that I have always encouraged you all to FOLLOW your heart. The society says FOLLOW YOUR HEAD – FOLLOW YOUR LOGIC – but the divine compassionate master is encouraging you all to FOLLOW YOUR HEART – only then LOVE is possible, only then the dance is possible, and only then this life is possible!

Always follow your heart, your heart knows the way – run in that direction, for the heart is always right. Always.

The only Lasting beauty is the Beauty of the Heart. – Rumi

Meditation is the ‘path’ that can help you reach your Heart! Heart-meditation – focus on your heart – be attentive to your breathing and meditate every day.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.

Take him to watery places – seashores. Watery places such as seashores and rivers and beautiful lakes turn on Pisces men and women. They just love water and they also love emotional people because they too are very emotional – and often takes a lot of time to make decisions!

However the real answer is when you LOVE – when you are very NATURAL – when you are BEING YOURSELF – then the man or woman whom you love – will definitely be pulled towards you – if he or she is also a follower of heart and a good heart person!

On a higher level – when you TURN IN – then the whole world TURNS ON! The more you meditate – the more you turn inwards – the more you flow with your life – the more you will be like a breeze and a cool breeze always turn on the person to whom it touches!

Be like a breeze, be like a flowing river – and you will reach your destination – your wish will be granted.

When you are REAL – when your LOVE is REAL – when you are BEING YOURSELF – natural – then LOVE finds a way – always remember, it all begins with YOU.

LOVE is the BRIDGE between YOU and EVERYTHING.

LOVE to all my readers, followers and fellow travelers.

Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.