Marriage matchmaking is not just connected to Godamilan. You see, there are many other elements such as moon sign, Nakshatra, Ascendant Mahadasha, the running Mahadasha of the man and woman who are planning to marry. Many such elements are there.
Yesterday a young man asked a very beautiful question. His question was: is it okay for a couple with the same Rashi, the same sign, to get married if they have different Nakshatra—meaning both are born with Moon in Taurus, but the man is born in Rohini Nakshatra and the woman is born in Muruga Nakshatra? Both belong to the sign Taurus because both have Moon in Taurus. In Vedic astrology, Moon sign is the most important sign. And that is why the Moon chart is also extremely important. In fact, the Mahadasha should be first seen through the Moon chart and then aligned to other charts.
So the answer to this young man’s question is that if the Nakshatra is the same for the couple—meaning the man belongs to Rohini Nakshatra and the woman also belongs to Rohini Nakshatra—then it is perfect to tie the knot and get married. But if the man is Rohini and the woman is Muruga Nakshatra born, then the poor man spends his whole life under the command of Muruga, that is Mars—meaning the wife will become too dominating. Of course there are many other factors to be considered before the marriage is finalized. But the essence that I personally want to share with all my close followers and viewers is that never settle for marriage just because you and your prospective partner belong to the same sign but different Nakshatra, because that is dangerous. However, if you and your partner belong to the same sign and same Nakshatra, then it is like sugar in milk.
Just two days ago I received a call from a woman and she said, “I have liked a man and I want to marry him.” I said, “Then what is the problem? Just get married.” She said, “My sign and his sign is the same: Taurus.” I asked, “What is the Nakshatra?” She said, “Again same: his and mine is Rohini.” I asked, “And how many points from matchmaking Godamilan?” She said, “Thirty-two points we are getting.” I said, “You just go ahead and get married. Same Nakshatra is good, but same sign with different Nakshatra is dangerous.”
Sometimes I feel that this whole cosmic chart and the zodiac is like a chessboard, because beside every black square, there is always a white square—a contrast—just the way our zodiac is: contrasting energies dwelling in the same sign, same zodiac, same universal cosmos. On a higher, spiritual level, if you observe closely, then when there is friendship in your life, there is also someone who is opposing you, a staunch enemy. If you are standing with Buddha, there is someone out there who is standing with Hitler. You see, the moment you get into friendship, enmity also is born.
Once Gautama Buddha was asked, “Does the enlightened man have friends?” He said, “No.” The questioner was shocked because he was thinking, “The man who is enlightened must have the whole world as his friend.” But Gautama Buddha is right. Whether you are shocked or not, when Buddha says the enlightened man has no friends, he is saying he cannot have friends because he cannot have enemies. They both come together. Friendliness he can have, but not friendship. Relating is possible, but not relationship. Friendliness is unfocused, unaddressed love. It is not any contrast, spoken or unspoken. It is not from one individual to another. It is from one individual to the whole existence. Friendliness is just the way of your being—real and authentic. You start radiating it; it comes of its own accord. Whoever comes close to you will feel the friendliness.
Always remember: friendship is a relationship. You can be in a relationship with a few people. Friendliness is a quality, not a relationship. It has nothing to do with anybody else. It is basically your inner quality. You can be friendly even when you are alone. You cannot be in friendship alone, because friendship requires the other. But friendliness is a kind of fragrance. A flower opens in the jungle. Nobody passes by. Still it is fragrant. It does not matter whether anybody comes to know of it or not—it’s its quality.
That friendliness is seen between Nakshatras that share the same nature, the same lord, the same understanding. And so, even if the sign is the same but the Nakshatras are different, it is a much more serious subject of study than otherwise—especially when it comes to the beauty of bonding, the beauty of relating, the fragrance of friendliness.
Just for the larger interest of my viewers and followers who have been following me for a long time, I share one simple example: Taurus and Capricorn. Now, both are said to be friendly signs. But just because they are friendly doesn’t mean the marriage will click on the right note. You have to see the Nakshatra. There was a man deeply in love with a woman whose sign was Taurus. They loved each other and got married. Now the fifth house was no more active; the focus had moved from the fifth house to the seventh house, from the Rashi chart to the D9 chart—but that is a different question. First you have to see the Nakshatra. The boy was Capricorn, Shravan Nakshatra. The girl was Taurus, Muruga Nakshatra. Now, the boy—Moon—cool, calm, caring. The girl—Mars—hot-tempered, aggressive, quarrelsome, possessive. How is the marriage going to work? I have pointed only the basic outer circumference; the inside factors are still to be observed. After twelve months they filed for divorce, and the marriage was over in the next four months.
I always insist that love is different and marriage is different. The fifth house is different and the seventh house is different. Rarely does the melting of love and marriage happen—to which the world calls love marriage.
One day Mohan asked me, “What is it that you value in life?” I said, “Love.” He asked, “Then why does love fail?” I said, “Love never fails. Lovers fail.” He asked, “Why do lovers fail?” I said, “Because they want to possess each other. And the moment you become possessive, love starts evaporating. Love starts fading away. Possessive love is not love. Love happens and blossoms only when there is freedom—total freedom. Trust is the foundation of all relationships. When you trust, you love. And when you love, you let the person have his or her freedom—total freedom. Only then will love last. Only then will love blossom.”
If you love a flower, don’t pick it. Because if you pick it, it dies and ceases to be what you love. So if you love a flower, let it be. Love is not about possession.
Lastly, and I say it only to my close followers: when you love, you simply love. Then don’t visit any astrologer or get into any questions. Just get married. Always remember, love has the strength to overcome all odds. No matter whether you fail in marriage or succeed in marriage. No matter whether you fail in relationship or succeed. Every experience brings you closer to reality. And it is only through self-experience that you can truly transform inside out.
So I encourage all lovers to melt into each other. Then don’t bring the harsh reality of stars and planets, the dryness of astrology. Let your life have the dance, the song, the music. When a man dances, he dances because it brings joy to his heart. When a man loves, he loves because it brings joy to his heart. So when you love, you simply walk on the path of love. Get married and let happen what has to happen. At least you can say later to your friends that you lived like a lion—courageous and truthful, committed to that beautiful experience called love.
Jai Sri Ganesha. Jai Guru.
