The word soulmate is one of the most misunderstood words of our time. Some people blindly believe in it.
Some people reject it completely. Some people chase it desperately. But very few people actually understand what it means.
If you ask me, for me, the guru is the soulmate. But that is because I am on the path. And here is where clarity is needed.
Ask yourself honestly, why would humanity coin a word like soulmate if it was only about the body? The soul does not belong to the physical realm. The soul operates in the spiritual dimension. And mate does not mean possession.
Mate means sakha. Mate means bandhu. Mate means one who walks with you.
That is why in our Ganapati shloka, we say Tvameva Bandhu Sakha Tvameva. O Lord Ganesha, you are my friend, you are my companion. Not my pleasure, not my desire, but my presence.
Understand this deeply. The very essence of the word soulmate is spiritual to its core. That is why for many seekers, God himself becomes the soulmate.
For some it is Lord Shiva, for some Lord Krishna, for some Lord Ganesha. A soulmate can be completely nonphysical and yet deeply, profoundly connected to your being. But somewhere along the way, we forgot this meaning.
Today, love is measured by physical closeness. Relationships are measured by consumption. And if there is no physical gratification, we say there is no connection.
This is not modernity. This is poverty of consciousness. The word soulmate has been reduced to someone who satisfies emotional hunger, sexual craving and psychological insecurity.
But that is not a soulmate. That is a transaction. A soulmate is not someone who completes you.
A soulmate is someone who meets you when there is no need to complete anything.
Now listen very carefully. Astrology does not promise a soulmate. Astrology reveals whether you are capable of recognising one.
You don’t find a soulmate, you become worthy of one. And worthiness has nothing to do with looks, success or charm.
A soulmate can appear in your life only when there is absolutely no hunger for physical pleasure. Only a joyful communion of two pure hearts coming together to rejoice in love and guide each other toward truth. Such people are very rare.
They are not clever. They are not calculative. They don’t overthink love.
They listen to a music others cannot hear. They appear mad to society. And so now, I will reveal the astrology of the mad ones who can truly love.
Astrology shows this very clearly. These are people whose moon is not trapped in logic. Moon connected with Rahu, Moon with Ketu, Moon with Jupiter, Moon with Mars, Moon with Uranus or Moon with Neptune.
These are souls who jump first and think later. If they love you, they will say, I love you. Without calculating your reaction, without worrying about the cost.
Because for them, love is truth, not a strategy.
And then there are certain nakshatras, Adra, Shatavisha, Swati, Mula, Magha, Ashwini, Shravan, Rohini and Hasta. The world calls these people born on these nakshatras mad, too emotional, too intense, too unpredictable.
But only they can truly love. Only they can laugh even when the world continues to bleed them.
Sant Kabir said something extraordinary. If you want to be my disciple, first cut off your head.
He was not talking about death. He was talking about dropping logic.
Only when logic is set aside and heart connects to heart, does truth reveal itself. These so-called mad souls have already done this unconsciously. That is why they can connect with love, with God, with the ultimate truth.
Always remember this, only a man who has truly fallen in love with a woman can someday fall in love with God. Because he understands love, he understands sacrifice, he understands surrender, he understands selflessness.
People say love is blind, but the truth is, only love has eyes, everything else is blind.
And this reminds me of a beautiful story, a story of two true friends, true soulmates.
It was during the Second World War that two soldiers were very friendly, great friends. One evening, one soldier comes back to the trench but finds that his friend has not returned.
Many people have been killed on the front. But he becomes afraid, is his friend killed? He enquires and then somebody says, we are not certain that he is killed, but he was so terribly wounded that it was impossible for him to come back to the trench. By now, he must be dead.
It is getting dark now and the enemy is still firing madly, but the soldier wants to go and search for his friend. The officer says, no, this is foolish, but he doesn’t listen to the officer. He goes.
It is very difficult in the dark and there are thousands of dead bodies all around. He looks and looks and in the middle of the night, he returns, dragging his friend’s dead body on his back. He himself is now terribly wounded, mortally wounded.
He also cannot survive. The moment he reaches the trench, he falls on the floor with the body of his dead friend. The officer comes and he says, I told you not to be foolish.
It was not worth it. Now you know what you have done to yourself. The friend is dead and you are dying.
The dying man opened his eyes and he said, but it was worth it because when I went there, he looked at me and he said, Jim, I knew you would come for love. Life can be sacrificed. It is worth it.
But we have been taught just the contrary. Sacrifice everything just to be alive, just to survive, sacrifice everything. And I teach you the contrary, to be loving, sacrifice everything.
This is the essence of a soulmate, not possession, not pleasure, but presence. A soulmate is not someone who saves your life. A soulmate is someone for whom life itself becomes secondary.
And so before I end, let me say something very honestly, very humbly. It may have happened that many of you may have found your soulmate in me. And that is possible because otherwise my mailbox would not be filled with so many beautiful emails full of love and gratitude for whatever I have shared through this channel.
Many of you are watching me, listening to me, walking with me without ever commenting, without ever expressing publicly, and yet you are finding your answers. You are finding your peace. This too is soulmatehood, not attachment, but resonance.
And so please remember this, a soulmate is not found, a soulmate is recognised.
The Buddhist says something very simple. If you meet someone and your heart pounds, your hands shake, your knees go weak, that is not the one.
That is desire, that is fear, that is attachment.
When you meet your soulmate, you will feel calm, no anxiety, no restlessness, no agitation, just a quiet knowing, as if something inside you says, yes, this feels familiar. And if even a little of that calm has touched you while listening to this, then something real has already happened.
Love to each one of you and remember this, if something in my words resonates with you, you are not walking alone. I am with you, the divine is with you, love is with you, and slowly, quietly, everything is going to be alright in your life.
Walk with faith and not by fear.
Jai Shri Ganesha, Jai Guru.
