Life is multidimensional – similarly Astrology is also multi-dimensional. Just one bad Venus is not the reason for failures in relationships. Instead a certain family of planets is responsible for failure in relationships. So now I will be discussing about each family member – planet that affect your relationships.
Lets begin with Moon – because everything begins with the state of your mind. Mind is the King when it comes to human affairs. And so the very first condition is when Moon is afflicted by Rahu, Ketu, Shani or Mars and is placed in 4th, 8th or 12th house.
The second condition is when the sign lord of the Moon sign is retrograde or combust – example Moon is in Pisces and Jupiter is Retrograde or Combust or afflicted by Rahu, Ketu or Pluto.
So the very first point is to check the state of your Moon (Mind) in the birth chart.
The second family member after Moon is Mercury – Mercury is about applying logic. And so if Mercury is messed up in your chart – then you will be in trouble and such a troubled Mercury will cause many misunderstandings in your relationship. So observe closely the condition of Mercury. If Mercury is retrograde and Jupiter is weak or afflicted or if Mercury is placed in 8th or 12th house in an enemy sign or if Mercury is in Magha,Moola or Ashwini Nakshatra – then your Mercury can create much trouble in your relationship. Professionally you may succeed in your intellectual pursuits but person relationships – you will continue to fail miserably.
The third family member is Saturn. Saturn is extremely important as it governs the 11th house in Kaal Purush Kundali and 11th house is a highly sexual house, house of many desires and house of fulfilment of desires. If Saturn is weak or if Saturn is with Rahu or Ketu or if you have a very close Mars Saturn conjunction then you will tested in your relationship and you may also find yourself unfortunate in the matters of love relationships – you simply fail to hold on to your relationship – you may experience multiple relationship breakups in life.
The fourth family member is Jupiter – Jupiter is Vivek – Jupiter is all about keep your promises! And when you fall in love and when you are in a relationship – you have made promises to each other – promises of love – promises of living together forever – and so these promises will not break only if Jupiter is clean and has no affliction in the birth chart. If Jupiter is in Capricorn and Saturn is afflicted than your relationship will be always in a mess.
Finally the fifth and the utmost important family member is Venus. Many people think that if Venus is in Virgo then relationships fail. That is wrong, relationship fail when Venus is in Virgo and Mercury is combust or retrograde or placed in 8th or 12th house. So don’t just focus on Venus in Virgo – find out the condition of Mercury in your birth chart. Whenever Venus is with Mars – relationships will fail and the native will go through multiple passionate relationships. Whenever Venus is with Ketu – the native may have strange ideas about sex and love – some may even become gay or lesbians. Whenever Venus is with Rahu – too much inclination towards enjoying sex outside marriage. I have known certain folks who are married but they just go out on the streets to sleep with prostitutes. They become obsessed towards enjoying sex with prostitutes or any other woman outside their marrriage. However if Jupiter is strong in their chart then may not sleep with prostitutes but still will have much interest in having extra marital relationships. Whenever Venus is with Sun – the native may face certain sexual issues – I have known certain folks who ejaculate soon or they just can’t get the sexual satisfaction though they don’t fall short in satisfying their female partner. So overall Venus afflicted by Rahu, Ketu, Mars or Sun can cause certain sexual, emotional issues in life. If the chart is very poor in quality then such native commit suicide.
So overall – failure in relationship is not just because of one bad planet – it is because of multiple bad planetary placements and this happens because of your own past life bad karma.
Yesterday – Mohan asked a good question. Mohan said ” If someone abuse me – then is it that someday he will receive the same abuse from me?”
No – it is not necessary that if someone abuse you then a day will come when he too will become a target of abuse but that abuse can come from anybody – not necessary from you.
Similarly – if you caused much havoc and pain in somebody’s love relationship – then not necessary that specific person has to come back in this birth to give you punishment. Somebody else can give you punishment. And so it is not important that who gives punishment – it is important that you get punishment for your past life bad karma.
When a person fails in love then someday the person starts falling in love with God! And that is indeed the very first step towards transformation – and once he starts walking on the path towards God – then there is no looking back!
Few months back I met one such man – he said that he was in love with a beautiful woman and he was so madly in love but then that woman cheated and he was devastated. And then he spend many days in depression when one fine day he met an old man and the old man was walking on the road but the there was something about this old man – his smile, his grace – his presence was divine and so this man rushed towards that old man and touched his feet – and said ” You are somebody – I can feel your divinity – please help me – I am a lost man.”
The old man smiled. His smile was so sweet that the man was touched. The old man looked into his eyes and said “Don’t worry – that is what I do – I bring lost men back home. Come – follow me…”
And then the young man started following the old man and the old man gave him a new perspective towards life. The old man said ” Raghav – the passion and intensity that you had for that woman – if the same passion and intensity you show towards realizing God then how beautiful it will be!”
Those words did the magic. Raghav – that was his name – Raghav’s heart was changed and he was no more the same – he took to God and then there was no looking back.
Raghav’s eyes were filled with tears as he looked up in the sky and said “Log Mohabat Mein Sharabi Bante Hai – Mujhe to tere ishq ne Namazi bana diya.”
Meaning – People become drunkards in ordinary love – but I became a prayerful man in God’s love – spiritual love.
Friends – everything is possible if you have some depth of understanding – but this kind of understanding and transformation comes only if you have at least one supporting planet in your birth chart – else people simply become drunkards in ordinary love. Ordinary love is based on sex, emotions and mutual bonding. Ordinary love is not unconditional. But God’s love – is unconditional – nobody is going to cheat you when you walk towards God – when you are thirsty for God’s love.
Jesus says “If anyone thirsts, let him come to Me and drink.”
The spiritual masters are filled with abundance of unconditional love – whosever comes is welcome. Mahavatar Babaji says – If you come to doubt, I’ll give you every reason to doubt. If you come suspicious, I’ll give you every reason to be suspicious. But if you come seeking Love, I’ll show you more love than you’ve ever known!
So when you fail again and again in relationships then you should know that you are made for the higher calling – you should know that you are not made for ordinary love relationships – you are made for God’s love – you are the special child of God and so you should start walking back home.
That’s what the old man had said to the young man – “My job is to bring you back home – God’s home.”
So come you all – lasting love, eternal love, unconditional love is only possible in God’s Abode – that is where you will find peace – joy and bliss.
Meditate, chant and open your heart – and start your conversations with God.
Jai Shri Ganesha. Jai Guru.
